Well played, indeed.
Since I happened to be in Seattle this past week, I was very lucky to be able to watch The Bachelorette’s most scandalous episode of the season with my 3 favorite girlfriends. Every week, we’ve all watched it from our own homes – me in California and the three of them seprately in Seattle all of us texting each other throughout the two hours for our reactions, but this time it was so much better to be in one living room together!
In case you missed it, Kaitlyn had the sex with Nick Viall on The Bachelorette. Obviously, nothing was shown, but audiences could definitely hear what went on behind closed doors. Someone should remind them to not only take the mics off, BUT to not leave the mics turned on either. In the past, getting to this stage in a relationship on the show usually happens within the last two episdoes at the fantasy suite when there are usually just three suitors left. In Kaitlyn’s case, she had 9 guys left vying for her love and a long road ahead of her. For reference, the last Bachelor/Bachelorette to be intimate before the fantasy suite was Juan Pablo and Claire.
At the end of the episode, I just had to ask the girls: so what did you think?
All of us agreed that what she did was wrong. It was wrong because there were still 9 guys left and essentially still very early on in the process. When you are down to just three contestants, it seems more okay because you are starting to get more serious and having that deeper connection. It doesn’t look great on Kaitlyn because it was on television for the whole world to see it. Do we feel that she is being treated unfairly though or being slut-shamed for what she did? Absolutely. From the very beginning of the season, we saw a preview of this clip as to what we could expect from Season 11 and it seemed like this was a very pivotal moment in Bachelor/Bachelorette history. When this happened to Juan Pablo, we didn’t know it was happening until it happened. Kaitlyn didn’t get the same treatment.
I met with a former professor the next day who also watches this show and engaged in this conversation with me as well. She asked me, “Where does Kaitlyn go from here? How does she redeem herself?”
I thought it was a great question because honestly – if I were in Kaitlyn’s shoes, I wouldn’t know what to do either. Part of why I’m disappointed in what Kaitlyn did was because now this sets an expectation for the other men. In their eyes, they might now feel that they have to sleep with Kaitlyn in order to feel like they’re ahead which puts Kaitlyn in a very uncomfortable position that no other woman really wants to see her have to be in. It feels a bit unfair though as I’m writing this because while she did make herself feel a little “easy” to Nick, she wasn’t doing something that was wrong with regards to dating because when most women date, intimacy is an important part of that. However, the girls and I decided that it is wrong when you are exclusively dating 9 men at the same time.
Readers, would love to hear your thoughts on this on this episode if you have any!
I’ve been hearing about this film for quite awhile now so it’s great to finally see the official trailer. I think this is going to do quite well actually and I’m looking forward to seeing it in theaters.
It’s no secret that I have a love / hate relationship with The Bachelorette. I don’t always believe that finding love on a reality television show is possible (except for Catherine and Sean!) but I can’t stop myself from watching anyways because I’m generally rooting for good things to come out of the show. I went to my first viewing party with co-workers this past Monday and it was really fun to explain to some of them how exactly the show works and to see how quickly they changed their minds between Britt and Kaitlyn. We had to remind them that the producers completely lead audiences to believe a certain way because of the way they edit things and how calculated every scene is.
Before the season started, I wasn’t quite sure what to think. I wasn’t happy about the guys having to choose between Britt and Kaitlyn, but I can see why the producers thought this would be entertaining. In my opinion, it didn’t seem fair. The girls already have to go through enough and just when they think they’ve been chosen they still have to compete? I’m glad that this was done and over with after the first episode though.
However, my problems didn’t end here. I was actually livid about a remark I heard from one of the guys on the show and even more upset that the media completely grazed over this instead focusing on the intoxicated contestant that was booted before the rose ceremony and the slut shaming that we saw from Kaitlyn having to apologize for her actions. (we’ll discuss this in another post after we watch the episode where this happens.) The line in question that I am referring to is when one guy was discussing who he’d pick, “Britt is more of your trophy wife. Kaitlyn is more of your wife.”
I’m not oblivious. I know that trophy wives exist and I know that there are women in this world that are happy being labeled a trophy wife, but you are not allowed to just refer to someone as a trophy wife. When you say that someone is a trophy wife, does that make you feel better about yourself as a man? Does that make you feel more masculine? This guy just met Britt for the first time and assumed because she was naturally very pretty that she didn’t have more to offer than being a trophy wife. I was really disappointed to hear this and am even more curious now to hear Britt’s reaction on this having seen the first episode. A guy once told me to my face that he believed that “Asian women were the modern day trophy wives.” Really? Asian women? All of them? He might as well have thrown a drink in my face because that was the equivalent of how I felt when I heard that. In case you were wondering what happened after that? Friendship over. For the men that read this blog, please. Please. Don’t ever say this to a women. Unless they want to be referred to in this way, it is a degrading statement and it’s 2015, we’ve come a long way to be put back into this position.
First off, you should know that both Britt and Kaitlyn aren’t very happy about having to share the title as The Bachelorette this season. However, they are being good sports about it because if they were visibly unhappy then that would make them unlikable and not the girl that audiences will want to root for.
What you should know about Britt:
In my opinion, I think that Britt seems like a really nice girl. One contestant constantly bullied her behind Britt’s back throughout the season and instead of trying to put Britt down, she made Britt look like the better person. A lot of the negativity that was directed at Britt could be attributed to just pure jealously.
What you should know about Kaitlyn:
I’m interested in seeing how Kaitlyn takes on the role of The Bachelorette and am curious to see if she’ll show both sides to her of being the funny and quirky girl while also being serious enough to put herself out there to the guys and wanting to find love.
Readers, who will you be rooting for tomorrow during the premiere?!
– 50 Incredible hotels to stay at in your lifetime [Business Insider]
– “Why I gave up a 95K job to move to an island” [Cosmopolitan]
– Getty Images is giving out 30K grants to Instagrammers [High Snobiety]
– Justin Rosenstein (co-founder of Asana) shares his tips for increasing productivity [Quora]
– Whoa, Bestie Row? [Lighter Side of Real Estate]
– Because everyone here is obsessed with Blue Bottle’s New Orleans Iced Coffee – here’s how you can prepare your own at home! [BlueBottle] – I pretty much do the short version of this every morning at work ;)
– Our favorite Craigslist Ad of the week.
– How Slack is changing workplace culture [Slate]
– Secret shutters [Circa]
– Emily Schuman talks about how she created her successful blog [Inc.]
– Seattle start-up Tune provides for women studing computer science at UW [Geekwire]
– Kanye changes the name of his new album to “Swish” [The Fader]
– How to execute on choreographing an unforgettable music video by the choreographer who did Tinashe’s “All Hands on Deck” [The Fader]
– An acoustic performance by Lauryn Hill of “Doo Wop (That Thing)” [Pitchfork]
I actually stopped watching Grey’s Anatomy a very long time ago – like after the second season or something like that. Yet over the years (the show has been running for 10!) I’ve tried to stay in the loop whenever I could. When the first episode aired, I loved it. Finally, a show taking place in Seattle! Actually, it’s a pretty great series and I wish I would’ve continued. When I heard that Derek Shepherd passed away during last week’s episode, I decided that I just had to see the episode. Even though I got lost in the seasons, the relationship between Derek and Meredith was one that resonated closely with me. They had a great romance and in last week’s episode that I watched this evening, I cried puddles. Cross-legged on my living room floor (what? not even my couch, I know) eating my Chicken Noodle Soup from Panera and tears streaming as we said goodbye to Derek (yeah, both Meredith and I!)
This doesn’t make me want to continue the series or anything, but it was classy send-off and I really appreciated ABC for doing it the way that they did.
Because we absolutely needed to talk about the revival of “Full House!” Earlier this week, the news broke out that Netflix would be bringing Full House back to life and the plot line got us even more excited.
According to E! the new series will follow older sister, D.J. Tanner-Fuller (wow, that pun!), played by Candace Cameron-Bure, who is “a pregnant veterinarian – recently widowed – and living in San Francisco.” Jodie Sweetin, who played middle sister Stephanie Tanner, and Andrea Barber, D.J.’s BFF-neighbor Kimmy Gibbler will also star in the series. It’s also heard that John Stamos will co-star and produce.
Now, of course we would love it if Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen would reprise their role as Michelle Tanner, but it looks like Lori Loughlin isn’t holding her breath and threw a little shade saying she doubts that they even care about the revival. However, after a post I saw yesterday from Ohnotheydidnt, it looks like it’s not completely off the table for the twins.
Mary-Kate said, “We just found out about it today. I guess we’re going to talk to the creators and see what’s happening.”
Meanwhile Ashley said she was surprised that her old co-stars hadn’t mentioned anything to her. “I ran into Bob [Saget] the other day and we didn’t even talk about it. I’m shocked I haven’t heard from John [Stamos].”
As to whether they’ll participate, Ashley said, “I’m going to call [Saget] and get his perspective.”
Omg. It’s really happening! Now #whereiscomet
Also, was D.J.’s husband Steve?! Did Steve die? I have so many questions.
Big Sean and Ariana Grande – 8 months of dating
Miley Cyrus and Patrick Schwarzenegger – 5 months of dating
Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield – over 3 years of dating. This one was just confirmed and makes me the saddest.
And in whatever news, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are finally getting a divroce. Breakups all around and it’s only TUESDAY!
– Throwback! Facebook is bringing back the “away message.” [Nylon]
– What Spotify users prefer to fall asleep to. Any guesses? [Billboard]
– Anthony Bourdain’s 3 best tips for eating out when traveling abroad [Entrepreneur]
– 20 mistakes inexperienced managers make from an Amazon exec via Quora [Business Insider]
– An illustrative guide to the most annoying trends on Instagram [Distractify]
– Summertime in a cup! Starbucks is introducing your campfire favorite (S’mores!) as a frapp. It will hit stores April 28th and you better believe we’ll be the first to try it! [Refinery29]
– The best food to order at every single major league baseball park [Esquire]
– Late night munchies? SF has got you covered. [Refinery29]
– 5 career mistakes that are OK to make in your 20’s [WhoWhatWear]
– Overdue, but we said goodbye to The Bold Italic :( [The Bold Italic]
Hands down – this had to be one of the sweetest things I’ve read all week. Growing up, The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants was one of my favorite series. I couldn’t always exactly relate to all of the situations that happened in the books or even felt like I resonated with one character, but there were a series of moments that I maybe identified with spread out between the four characters. After the series was turned into a movie and then a sequel, I was ecstatic. The actresses selected were such a good fit, but sometimes that’s all it is – just acting, right? It’s sometimes rare for people that are cast in a movie to stay friends afterwards, but not these 4.
It was revealed this week that Blake Lively made Amber Tamblyn, Alexis Bledel, and America Ferrera the godmothers of her newborn baby. Awwww!
Edit: 4/12 oh this is disappointing that it isn’t true after all… [E!]
As a 90’s child, I couldn’t get enough of Full House. It was my favorite show and I was convinced that Michelle Tanner and I were pretty much the same person… but you know as two different races and two completely different families. When I saw Alamo Square for the first time and the Painted Ladies (highlighted in the opening credits) I could have died out of excitement. So when it was announced earlier this week that Netflix might be signing on for a reboot of my favorite series, I nearly thought it was an April Fool’s prank. Luckily it wasn’t.
Here’s what we know so far:
– Netflix will be taking on 13 episodes continuing the series.
– It will be titled “Fuller House” instead of “Full House.”
– Candace Cameron Bure will reprise her role as DJ and Andrea Barber will return as Kimmy Gibbler! (The Gibbler!!)
More importantly, are they still in San Francisco? Alamo Square? Where are Danny, Jesse, and Joey now? Are they all still living together? I have so many questions.