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One More Thought About That Instagram Thing…

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After I wrote that post about what I’ve been doing to step up my “Instagram game” this past weekend, I realized that I left out something very important. It didn’t make sense for me to edit the original post and write the update at the bottom. Instead I wanted to wait a couple of days to think a little bit more about what I was going to say and then write another post. I’m not about to tell you anything that you haven’t heard before.

Another important lesson that I learned from taking “good Instagram photos” is that we project how we want to be seen by others. I didn’t want to believe it at first, but the longer I went on with this the more I found this to be true. When I returned home to Seattle this past June, I caught up with a few friends that I don’t regularly keep in touch with and they all couldn’t stop telling me the same thing.

“You look like you’re doing well and you seem really happy at least from your Instagram!”

Well, little do you know, right? My year of being 25 was just as hard as my 23rd year. Just because your Instagram looks perfect and you’ve set the right constrast and highlights, you yourself, are not perfect. I won’t deny that on those harder days, even those validating “likes” could temporarily make me feel better – make me feel like my experiences were a little more exciting or that I was a little bit closer to home. We may not all admit it, but these feelings resonate within a lot of us, people you know and even those power Instagram users. There was a story earlier this year that ESPN wrote about college athlete Madison Holleran who very much projected a happy life through her Instagram while struggling with a lot more beneath the surface of her photos. Of course, I want my feed to project happiness, but if we’re being honest here – my photos don’t always reflect how I’m feeling inside and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with just admitting that.

*We rarely showecase on our social media if we’re feeling sad or unhappy, but I found this rare one that I took back in 2013
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Blog Roundup

– America’s most popular tastes broken down by state [GOOD]
– How employees feel their leaders could improve in the workplace [Harvard Business Review]
– Amazon got torn apart last weekend [New York Times]
– 2015’s most annoying words [Man Repeller]


– 5 scientifically proven ways to ease a hangover [Cool Material]

– An app to keep you safe when you’re walking home alone [GOOD]

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Interracial Couples Talking About Stereotypes

Warning: some of this language is not safe for work. Mom and Dad, you’re not going to want to watch this.

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Blog Roundup

– I can’t even with these sushi beach towels [Colossal]

– The pain of being in love with someone you can never be with [Elite Daily]

– 15 rules for an unconventional wedding [The Coveteur]

– Things to avoid when eating out [The Guardian]

– The Real World is casting in SF next month, do you have what it takes? [7×7]

– Silicon Valley Dictionary – like Urban Dictionary, but a place where people only in tech can truly relate [Silicon Valley Dictionary]

– The most popular foods across the world calculated by Instagram [Photoworld]

– The best amenity kits in first class by airline [Afar]

– How to recover from an all-nighter

– Calculate how much time you’ve spent watching your favorite television shows [tiii.me]

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Homeless People Reading Mean Tweets About the Homeless

Just some perspective. Angie Bird has filmed a powerful video that is a spin on Jimmy Kimmel’s celebrities reading mean tweets about themselves. However, instead of using celebrities, she had homeless people reading mean tweets about homeless people as a way to raise more awareness. Instead of taking a few seconds to put others down, we should be spending those minutes helping those in need.

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2 Kinds of People

When I first landed on this post, I didn’t read any of it. Instead, I did the wrong thing and went through the illustrations done by @inoffensive and tried to figure out which illustration I identified with the most. I was hoping that as I went on further, I would be able to figure out what this was all about and I didn’t so I had to go all the way back to the beginning. This Tumblr of images basically shows people that we typically do choose one thing over the other and by doing so, this shows us what kind of people we are. To view all of the illustrations, click here.

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Non-Profit Stirs Convo About Abuse w/ Emojis

Swedish non-profit, BRIS, recently released a new app that includes this set of emojis dispalyed above to shed more awareness on abuse and allow kids to express themselves to others using an emoji when they aren’t able to speak up.

“A lot of kids feel really awful for all kinds of different reasons, and [these emoji] are easily understood symbols for some of those different issues,” BRIS spokeswoman Silvia Ernhagen told The FADER. “Many children have difficulties in putting words to their problems, so this is a way to help them to express themselves as well as encouraging them to actually speak about their feelings and ask for help when necessary.”

When we think of how we use emojis we’re used to displaying really cute and funny images, but it’s so interesting to see these painted in another light. Seeing these cause us to look at some of the most common emojis we typically use in a worse way. I’m hoping that these emojis strike a more positive response and are of use to others in need through the non-profit’s work.

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My Biggest Issue with The Bachelorette Premiere This Week

It’s no secret that I have a love / hate relationship with The Bachelorette. I don’t always believe that finding love on a reality television show is possible (except for Catherine and Sean!) but I can’t stop myself from watching anyways because I’m generally rooting for good things to come out of the show. I went to my first viewing party with co-workers this past Monday and it was really fun to explain to some of them how exactly the show works and to see how quickly they changed their minds between Britt and Kaitlyn. We had to remind them that the producers completely lead audiences to believe a certain way because of the way they edit things and how calculated every scene is.

Before the season started, I wasn’t quite sure what to think. I wasn’t happy about the guys having to choose between Britt and Kaitlyn, but I can see why the producers thought this would be entertaining. In my opinion, it didn’t seem fair. The girls already have to go through enough and just when they think they’ve been chosen they still have to compete? I’m glad that this was done and over with after the first episode though.

However, my problems didn’t end here. I was actually livid about a remark I heard from one of the guys on the show and even more upset that the media completely grazed over this instead focusing on the intoxicated contestant that was booted before the rose ceremony and the slut shaming that we saw from Kaitlyn having to apologize for her actions. (we’ll discuss this in another post after we watch the episode where this happens.) The line in question that I am referring to is when one guy was discussing who he’d pick, “Britt is more of your trophy wife. Kaitlyn is more of your wife.”

I’m not oblivious. I know that trophy wives exist and I know that there are women in this world that are happy being labeled a trophy wife, but you are not allowed to just refer to someone as a trophy wife. When you say that someone is a trophy wife, does that make you feel better about yourself as a man? Does that make you feel more masculine? This guy just met Britt for the first time and assumed because she was naturally very pretty that she didn’t have more to offer than being a trophy wife. I was really disappointed to hear this and am even more curious now to hear Britt’s reaction on this having seen the first episode. A guy once told me to my face that he believed that “Asian women were the modern day trophy wives.” Really? Asian women? All of them? He might as well have thrown a drink in my face because that was the equivalent of how I felt when I heard that. In case you were wondering what happened after that? Friendship over. For the men that read this blog, please. Please. Don’t ever say this to a women. Unless they want to be referred to in this way, it is a degrading statement and it’s 2015, we’ve come a long way to be put back into this position.

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Eddie Huang for TIME Magazine

I have to admit that when I first heard about Fresh Off the Boat becoming a television series on ABC, I wanted to boycott the show. I had seen the commercials for it and the acting sometimes made me cringe, but it wasn’t until Kevin told me that he was entirely caught up on the series that I thought it deserved a shot. How quickly I changed my tune…

I was afraid that by others watching the show that Asian Americans would be faced with those confirmations about our stereotypes or that everyone would immediately assume that my childhood was exactly like Eddie’s which was going to be portrayed negatively. In fact, my childhood and my brother’s was a lot like Eddie’s and it wasn’t portrayed negatively. I am now a fan of the show and I think it does something great for Asian Americans. It gives us something to relate to because I can guarantee you growing up, I never felt like anyone could really relate to me in this sense.

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The Money We’ll Never Have

Oh geez, we’re only one month into the year, but already all I’ve been thinking about is money. I’m thinking about my friends who are buying places, a 401K (which FYI I hate thinking about. Logging into Fidelity is death.) my co-workers who are light years ahead of me in investing and whether or not I’m going to continue renting next year. These days, the thought of money is just running my life, but isn’t it for everyone? My friend Toby told me over the holidays that if there’s one advice she could give me it would be tosave. Save now. But unless I’m doing it automatically, it’s difficult for me to know the best way to do that.

Can saving be eating out just one a day on the weekends? Skipping my morning coffee? Spending less on my credit card every month? There’s really no right or wrong answer. I think every 20-year old I know is just trying to figure it out on their own. I stumbled upon this infographic today about what someone has to earn in every state in order to be in the top 1%. Well, it’s just the 1% so the best thing about this infographic is knowing you’re not alone!

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How Korean Couples Do PDA

New Year’s Eve is totally a couples holiday, right? I’ve never met a person who was single at the time of New Year’s Eve who has told me that they have loved the holiday. So while it’s New Year’s Eve and all, this post is the most fitting. Americans have varying levels of PDA. Some people are comfortable with it and some people just won’t even go there. Maybe there’s a few people that take it to the extremes too and for those, we like to take pictures and post them because we think it’s funny. In South Korea, you won’t see a lot of the American style PDA that we know of – the kissing and the making out, etc. Instead, you’ll see couples dressing alike to show their affection. In America, sometimes this happens by coincidence, but in South Korea, it’s on purpose. I’m sure to the outside world, it’s a little strange, but I find it to be quite endearing. I don’t think I would ever feel comfortable doing that here in the states, personally, but it’s pretty cute to see a different version of PDA around the world.

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Blog Roundup

 

– How a freshman in college looks at the beginning of the school year and at the end of the school year [New York Times]

– Sleep Hack: Keep your feet outside of the covers! [NY Mag]

– 2 ingredient sandwiches. Poor college students, I am with you. [Saveur]

– Band of Outsiders have canceled their runway show for NYFW  this coming fall, however, they will be opening their store still on September 7th which is just as exciting. [Fashionista]

– Could Full House be on its way to a reboot? Boy Meets World did it with Girl Meets World so we think it’s possible! [Collider]

– A guy lives in various Airbnb’s in Hong Kong for a year. [Yearbnb]

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Blog Roundup

– What the biggest companies are from each state [Gizmodo]

– America’s coolest rooftop bars [Travel and Leisure] whoo Seattle!

– 10 menswear blogs every guy should know [Cool Material] I’m reading them too!

– 12 menswear Instagrammers to follow [Cool Material]

– Dov Charney to sue American Apparel [Refinery29]

– All the jobs and the money you can be making in them – a chart! [Vox]

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The Blind Leading the Blind via IMBOYCRAZY

I am usually months behind on posts by IMBOYCRAZY, but her “Blind Leading the Blind” series is by far one of my favorite things to read across almost all of the blogs I follow. Yes, her website would be deemed “inappropriate” by my parents, but that’s entertaining writing for you, right? Actually this Blind Leading the Blind post was one of the less racier ones I’ve seen, but even still – I’m sure people can find themselves offended by it. Alexi Wasser actually writes all of the posts in this series, but this one time she decided to let her friend Jarrett Grode write it up and it’s a pretty enjoyable read. What I love about this series is that Alexi basically says all the things we can’t come to terms with ourselves even though we’re totally thinking it or are guilty of doing these things. Yes, I am guilty. So what. So are you.

The Blind Leading The Blind (by Jarrett Grode):

 1. Texting “here!” instead of calling when you’re outside to pick me up is just bizarre. If you want to avoid speaking to me that badly, don’t give me a ride.

 2. You sound weak when you say “my dog loves me unconditionally.”

 3. If your Facebook profile picture is anything other than a picture of you, it’s like saying you’re not interested in having sex with anyone on the site or couldn’t if you tried.

 4. Here’s a mnemonic device so you don’t embarrass yourself by confusing astronomy and astrology: ASTRONomy ASTRONaut ASTROLogy IS NOT SCIENCE.

 5. It’s okay when I call it the Jew York Times but you have to say Jewish.

 6. Play it safe: NEVER TEXT DRUG DEALS without writing “jk” at the end.

 7. An easy way to accurately determine someone’s height is ask then subtract an inch.

 8. Don’t look down at people who try to meet people online. You’re online right now.

 9. If you think Mad Men is boring DON’T ADMIT IT. (It means you’re stupid.)

 10. If you want to possess the single most attractive quality anyone can have, be passionate about working hard at something you love doing. This will allow you to afford your own place, which is the single most attractive quality anyone can have.

To read more from IMBOYCRAZY, click here. Mom and Dad don’t click that link!

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Women – It’s Time To Stop Apologizing

Pantene released a new video today that is sure to go viral and is a strong follow-up to their previous video about labels. In the new video, the brand urges women to stop apologizing for things that happen in our every day lives that don’t require an apology at all. It’s a powerful message and one that is so relatable to women in this day and age. I hate to admit this, but I am totally one of those women and it’s a bad habit that I’ve been trying to shake. I find myself apologizing when I’m about to make a suggestion or when I want to clarify on a detail when what I should be doing is just speaking – no apology needed. Someone close to me the other day recognized that I was apologizing for something kind of silly and asked me why I was apologizing to begin with and that I needed to stop apologizing. And you know how I responded? With another “sorry.”

No it’s not easy to kick the habit to the curb, but maybe we can all help each other. I’m really glad that Pantene has decided to address this issue and I hope it gets the attention that it deserves.

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