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My Biggest Issue with The Bachelorette Premiere This Week

It’s no secret that I have a love / hate relationship with The Bachelorette. I don’t always believe that finding love on a reality television show is possible (except for Catherine and Sean!) but I can’t stop myself from watching anyways because I’m generally rooting for good things to come out of the show. I went to my first viewing party with co-workers this past Monday and it was really fun to explain to some of them how exactly the show works and to see how quickly they changed their minds between Britt and Kaitlyn. We had to remind them that the producers completely lead audiences to believe a certain way because of the way they edit things and how calculated every scene is.

Before the season started, I wasn’t quite sure what to think. I wasn’t happy about the guys having to choose between Britt and Kaitlyn, but I can see why the producers thought this would be entertaining. In my opinion, it didn’t seem fair. The girls already have to go through enough and just when they think they’ve been chosen they still have to compete? I’m glad that this was done and over with after the first episode though.

However, my problems didn’t end here. I was actually livid about a remark I heard from one of the guys on the show and even more upset that the media completely grazed over this instead focusing on the intoxicated contestant that was booted before the rose ceremony and the slut shaming that we saw from Kaitlyn having to apologize for her actions. (we’ll discuss this in another post after we watch the episode where this happens.) The line in question that I am referring to is when one guy was discussing who he’d pick, “Britt is more of your trophy wife. Kaitlyn is more of your wife.”

I’m not oblivious. I know that trophy wives exist and I know that there are women in this world that are happy being labeled a trophy wife, but you are not allowed to just refer to someone as a trophy wife. When you say that someone is a trophy wife, does that make you feel better about yourself as a man? Does that make you feel more masculine? This guy just met Britt for the first time and assumed because she was naturally very pretty that she didn’t have more to offer than being a trophy wife. I was really disappointed to hear this and am even more curious now to hear Britt’s reaction on this having seen the first episode. A guy once told me to my face that he believed that “Asian women were the modern day trophy wives.” Really? Asian women? All of them? He might as well have thrown a drink in my face because that was the equivalent of how I felt when I heard that. In case you were wondering what happened after that? Friendship over. For the men that read this blog, please. Please. Don’t ever say this to a women. Unless they want to be referred to in this way, it is a degrading statement and it’s 2015, we’ve come a long way to be put back into this position.

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10 Thoughts From This Week

  • Sleepovers with your girlfriends as adults are still just as fun as they were when you were kids!
  • No one can ever make you feel bad about whatever you decide to do with your own dating life. Don’t give into peer pressure. Do what you want to do and date who you want to date when you feel like dating.
  • Jon Gosselin is only seeking full custody for one of his kids. He has 8 total and this is all sorts of messed up.
  • In life, people aren’t going to know how to communicate over email and will send you snarky emails. Don’t react by sending a snarky one back. Be a professional.
  • This week I flooded two bathrooms while taking a shower.
  • This article about a Silicon Valley Startup Castle has the most ridiculous requirements.
  • The dreams that you have about your work life are telling you something. It’s okay if you’re not sure what that message is just yet. I’ve been spending all day trying to figure it out.
  • There will come a time where you will have a dessert that you find to be too sweet for you. That would be the Coldstones Cherry Vanilla ice cream I had last night celebrating Avi’s birthday.
  • Friendship is a two-way street. Just like a relationship, you shouldn’t settle for anything less if you feel like you’re being treated unfairly.
  • Reading this article about modern day dating made me really upset. My generation is really disappointing.
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A Collection Part 42

For the first time, we are publishing an “A Collection” post and starting the next one immediately. Hopefully, this means that we can have another one posted within the next six months. These are Veronica’s favorite posts and I even texted her this morning to let her know that she could expect it this evening. These posts are so interesting to me because there is usually little to no content. Instead, it’s a post of 50+ images that I’ve collected over 6 months that evoke something out of me. There’s no rhyme or reason. I can’t go through each photo and say why I chose each one. I just know that it’s important to me, that it means something and resonates with me in some way or another. I’ve never actually talked to Veronica about this, but while this doesn’t hold much content, I almost feel like she probably knows what I’m thinking or how I’m feeling through a collection of images. Maybe you all do! You tell me. :)

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Wedding Mondays

Every time I see a wedding video that is 14 minutes – even 10 minutes long – I get a little bit nervous. I think to myself, this could either be really really good or bad and if it’s bad, I’ll know so within 45 seconds. Luckily for all of us, the bad never came and I found myself feeling more and more drawn in with every minute. When it ended, I was surprised that it was 14 minutes long because it definitely didn’t feel like it. Wow, Nina and Charlie are one incredible couple. From their impeccable style, their heartfelt vows to each other, and the overall look and feel of the wedding… – we loved everything that we saw. This is one of those wedding videos where you watch it and you say to yourself, “I hope my wedding is something like this.” This venue is actually a dream venue that I would love to have if I chose to have my wedding indoors. I really like that the space is versatile, clean, and spacious and everything can just happen all in one place. No one wants to be driving back and forth from location to location on their wedding day – guests included.

To view the entire feature, click here to visit Green Wedding Shoes!

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When One of Your Girlfriends Gets Engaged

mandi and me

There’s really something special that happens when you learn that one of your favorite girlfriends has been proposed to, is engaged and now doesn’t have a boyfriend, but a “fiance.” This isn’t the first time that I’ve gotten this news from a friend, but it’s different every time and so special that it feels like the first time. I was at my desk having a casual conversation with a coworker of mine when it popped up on my screen. My iMessage with a text from Mandi that said, “Hi Eric and I just got engaged !!!!!” What? So anticlimatic given the surroundings, but with enough emotion to make me tear up right then and there.

When I first moved to the Bay Area, Mandi and Eric were the first friends to welcome me into the city and into their circle. They made sure that I never felt alone and that my two feet were going to be on the ground again like they once were in Seattle. After all, the three of us were beginning to make the Bay Area and SF our new home at the same time. Mandi has been a great example in teaching me how to be a better friend and together her and Eric have set a great example for how to have a healthy and loving partnership together. I am absolutely overjoyed and thrilled for the both of them and can’t wait to celebrate with these two every step of the way. Congratulations Mandi and Eric! The road to the wedding day is going to be the best ever and now we’ll finally have a purpose for these wedding expos we’re going to be attending!

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Saying Goodbye to Derek Shepherd

I actually stopped watching Grey’s Anatomy a very long time ago – like after the second season or something like that. Yet over the years (the show has been running for 10!) I’ve tried to stay in the loop whenever I could. When the first episode aired, I loved it. Finally, a show taking place in Seattle! Actually, it’s a pretty great series and I wish I would’ve continued. When I heard that Derek Shepherd passed away during last week’s episode, I decided that I just had to see the episode. Even though I got lost in the seasons, the relationship between Derek and Meredith was one that resonated closely with me. They had a great romance and in last week’s episode that I watched this evening, I cried puddles. Cross-legged on my living room floor (what? not even my couch, I know) eating my Chicken Noodle Soup from Panera and tears streaming as we said goodbye to Derek (yeah, both Meredith and I!)

This doesn’t make me want to continue the series or anything, but it was classy send-off and I really appreciated ABC for doing it the way that they did.

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In Couples Breaking Up This Week…

Big Sean and Ariana Grande – 8 months of dating

Miley Cyrus and Patrick Schwarzenegger – 5 months of dating

Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield – over 3 years of dating. This one was just confirmed and makes me the saddest.

And in whatever news, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are finally getting a divroce. Breakups all around and it’s only TUESDAY!

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Blog Roundup

– The summer music festival economy explained. [Vox]

– Ellen Pao announces that Reddit will no long allow for negotiation in salaries during the hiring process. [Salon]

– After 3 years of dating, Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield have decided to go on a break. [People]

– Karlie Kloss encourages young girls to code! Yeah! [Fashionista]

– Surprised babies are more curious and eager to learn. [GOOD]

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Never Liked It Anyway

When a relationship ends, every gift you’ve ever gotten from your ex becomes completely meaningless. Every urge to wear that leftover piece of clothing goes away. Every romantic gift that came with a sweet gesture just makes you rage. You could just toss it all out, or you could get a little something back for it. That’s where “Never Liked It Anyway” comes in. Instead of just dumping everything into the garbage, why not sell it?

There’s never any right way to get over a breakup, but if you haven’t found the solution yet, you might want to give this one a shot.

I don’t feel like trying out the site myself, but I’m curious about what kinds of goods you can get off of it. Readers, care to some digging for us?

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Wedding Mondays

We’ve reached a completely new level today. Earlier this afternoon, a co-worker of mine who happens to be engaged came up to me in the sweetest way and asked me if I could teach him and his fiance lessons for their first dance. Never in my life have I ever been so flattered, but then flusteredness got the better of me, “But I can’t I can’t! I only do hip hop! You should get a real professional!” It was still the sweetest gesture, regardless.

With that said, let’s dive into this week’s Wedding Mondays. I must’ve watched this actually a couple of weeks ago, but I couldn’t wait to share it with everyone. Personalized vows just get me. Every. Single. Time. Also, what an adorable couple! I love how they mixed both cultures into the ceremony and how the bride was able to let her hair down for the reception. Absolute perfection.

To view the entire wedding from Patricia and Christopher, click here to be directed to Green Wedding Shoes!

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Blog Roundup

– 8 Graphs That Capture the Truths of Breaking Up [The Bold Italic]

– How addicted to the internet are you? [PsychCentral] I received a healthy score of 14! What did you all get?

– The Secrets of Highly Efficient Napping [i09]

– How my old neighborhood of Capitol Hill is evolving and unfortunately, not in a good way [Seattle Times]

– The science of why Legos are so painful to step on [Quartz]

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Wedding Mondays

I think I love this video because it’s not like anything I’ve ever seen before. Readers, would you be happy, upset, or relieved if your wedding were a complete surprise?! A part of me would find this gesture really sweet, but 95% of me would’ve really wanted to have a wedding that was all my own and one where both my partner and I could plan. Despite my own opinions, I absolutely loved this video. It sounded like the bride planning her own wedding was more stressful than fun so it’s great to see that those closest to her were able to step in and pull off the ultimate surprise.

What a qt couple. Their vows were too much!

To see the entire feature on Style Me Pretty, click here!

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Me & You

Watching this made me really happy and then made me really sad. This short was made by Jack Tew and Sorcha Anglim

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Wedding Mondays

Happy happy Monday morning everyone! I have to start out by saying that I have a major crush on this wedding from Kristen and Andrew and after watching it, I think you’ll see why.

A few years ago I decided to swear off speeches at my future wedding. The majority of weddings that I’ve ever been to (within the family) didn’t ever include speeches and then the weddings that I did attend that weren’t in the family had speeches that just seemed to drag and drag and drag. I remember when I made this announcement, Veronica said to me – “WHAT! But I’m going to be the one to give the speech at your wedding!” What Veronica says goes so she’s my exception. :) But actually I really enjoy watching videos where I get to see a speech done well and this touching one by Kristen’s father – it tugs at your heart strings in all the right ways. Also bonus points to the officient because he did a great job too!

To view the entire feature on Style Me Pretty, click here.

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Soppy Pt. 2

I can’t believe that it was back in 2013 that I wrote about Soppy for the first time. It feels like just yesterday that I was falling in love with these illustrations of a real-life couple turned cartoon as they venture into moving into together for the first time and fall in love. Well, a year and a half has gone by and the comic has spiraled into a book that was just published back in December. So cute – someone get this for my birthday pls. Comic artist Philippa Rice captures all of those precious little moments that couples in real life know to be so so true of themselves – choosing what to have for dinner that night, who owns what side of the bed, and brushing your teeth side by side. Swoon, right? Trust – you’re going to want to click for more.

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