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That Last Bachelorette Episode

Since I happened to be in Seattle this past week, I was very lucky to be able to watch The Bachelorette’s most scandalous episode of the season with my 3 favorite girlfriends. Every week, we’ve all watched it from our own homes – me in California and the three of them seprately in Seattle all of us texting each other throughout the two hours for our reactions, but this time it was so much better to be in one living room together!

In case you missed it, Kaitlyn had the sex with Nick Viall on The Bachelorette. Obviously, nothing was shown, but audiences could definitely hear what went on behind closed doors. Someone should remind them to not only take the mics off, BUT to not leave the mics turned on either. In the past, getting to this stage in a relationship on the show usually happens within the last two episdoes at the fantasy suite when there are usually just three suitors left. In Kaitlyn’s case, she had 9 guys left vying for her love and a long road ahead of her. For reference, the last Bachelor/Bachelorette to be intimate before the fantasy suite was Juan Pablo and Claire.

At the end of the episode, I just had to ask the girls: so what did you think?

All of us agreed that what she did was wrong. It was wrong because there were still 9 guys left and essentially still very early on in the process. When you are down to just three contestants, it seems more okay because you are starting to get more serious and having that deeper connection. It doesn’t look great on Kaitlyn because it was on television for the whole world to see it. Do we feel that she is being treated unfairly though or being slut-shamed for what she did? Absolutely. From the very beginning of the season, we saw a preview of this clip as to what we could expect from Season 11 and it seemed like this was a very pivotal moment in Bachelor/Bachelorette history. When this happened to Juan Pablo, we didn’t know it was happening until it happened. Kaitlyn didn’t get the same treatment.

I met with a former professor the next day who also watches this show and engaged in this conversation with me as well. She asked me, “Where does Kaitlyn go from here? How does she redeem herself?”

I thought it was a great question because honestly – if I were in Kaitlyn’s shoes, I wouldn’t know what to do either. Part of why I’m disappointed in what Kaitlyn did was because now this sets an expectation for the other men. In their eyes, they might now feel that they have to sleep with Kaitlyn in order to feel like they’re ahead which puts Kaitlyn in a very uncomfortable position that no other woman really wants to see her have to be in. It feels a bit unfair though as I’m writing this because while she did make herself feel a little “easy” to Nick, she wasn’t doing something that was wrong with regards to dating because when most women date, intimacy is an important part of that. However, the girls and I decided that it is wrong when you are exclusively dating 9 men at the same time.

Readers, would love to hear your thoughts on this on this episode if you have any!

 

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Via IMBOYCRAZY

By no means do I ever feel like I’m going to reach a point in my life where I feel like I know everything. Sure, I’ve had my fair share of experiences, but I love seeking advice from my girlfriends and vice versa, I love to dish out my own advice too (if they ask!) Sometimes these pieces of advice come in various funny forms. I was having brunch with Neel (who was visiting from Boston for the weekend) and Spencer on Saturday when all of a sudden Neel hopped up from the table and said to me, “Katie, I have something for you! It’s from Yelly!” YELLY?! She is our mutual friend as well, but she hadn’t been at brunch with us so I was very confused as to what was happening. He came from his car with…

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Wedding Mondays

With Father’s Day being just the day before, we really couldn’t help ourselves by selecting a wedding video that highlighted a touching relationship between a father and a daughter. Ashley and Mike’s wedding looked like a ton of fun for not only them, but all of their guests. Honestly, what’s not to love in this video?

  • Their gifts to each other
  • Speeches from their friends
  • Chinese lanterns
  • Their big reveal and first look
  • Lastly, those Geronimo balloons! MY FAVORITE!

Ugh, I loved all of the elements featured in this wedding video.

To view the entire feature and all of the photos, visit Style Me Pretty.

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Wedding Mondays

We are doing this so last minute! I didn’t think that I was going to have one for today and for a split second even thought that I could just hold it off until next Monday, but then I thought… I have 33 more minutes left and I don’t want to disappoint. I was first drawn to this wedding because of Amanda’s stunning wedding dress from Basix Black Label purchased at Lovely Bride. The details, the long sleeves, and the beading – it’s all a romantic’s dream. Her and Sean seem like a very classic couple and the New York backdrop was a no brainer selection for them. Usually when I’m scrolling through all the pictures of a wedding that I can’t wait to see more of, I usually hold my breath hoping that there’s a wedding video at the end waiting for me. Sure enough, there was. Sean’s daughter intro’ed the video with a touching speech followed by the bride and groom sharing vows and footage of the flawless couple.

I love that Amanda wore her hair up for the ceremony and photos and down for the reception. It’s perfect.

To view the rest of the feature on Green Wedding Shoes, click here!

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Blog Roundup

– Commentary for the best interview ever from Kendall and Kylie Jenner [Defamer]

– What you should know before doing your first cycling class (what I wish I had known!) [Refinery29]

– Lauren Conrad removes fat-shaming words from her website and replaces them with words we should be using instead [TIME]

– Everything You Think You Know About Love Is Wrong by Aziz Ansari [TIME]

– Sony Music CEO confirms Apple launching their streaming service today [The Fader]

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My Biggest Issue with The Bachelorette Premiere This Week

It’s no secret that I have a love / hate relationship with The Bachelorette. I don’t always believe that finding love on a reality television show is possible (except for Catherine and Sean!) but I can’t stop myself from watching anyways because I’m generally rooting for good things to come out of the show. I went to my first viewing party with co-workers this past Monday and it was really fun to explain to some of them how exactly the show works and to see how quickly they changed their minds between Britt and Kaitlyn. We had to remind them that the producers completely lead audiences to believe a certain way because of the way they edit things and how calculated every scene is.

Before the season started, I wasn’t quite sure what to think. I wasn’t happy about the guys having to choose between Britt and Kaitlyn, but I can see why the producers thought this would be entertaining. In my opinion, it didn’t seem fair. The girls already have to go through enough and just when they think they’ve been chosen they still have to compete? I’m glad that this was done and over with after the first episode though.

However, my problems didn’t end here. I was actually livid about a remark I heard from one of the guys on the show and even more upset that the media completely grazed over this instead focusing on the intoxicated contestant that was booted before the rose ceremony and the slut shaming that we saw from Kaitlyn having to apologize for her actions. (we’ll discuss this in another post after we watch the episode where this happens.) The line in question that I am referring to is when one guy was discussing who he’d pick, “Britt is more of your trophy wife. Kaitlyn is more of your wife.”

I’m not oblivious. I know that trophy wives exist and I know that there are women in this world that are happy being labeled a trophy wife, but you are not allowed to just refer to someone as a trophy wife. When you say that someone is a trophy wife, does that make you feel better about yourself as a man? Does that make you feel more masculine? This guy just met Britt for the first time and assumed because she was naturally very pretty that she didn’t have more to offer than being a trophy wife. I was really disappointed to hear this and am even more curious now to hear Britt’s reaction on this having seen the first episode. A guy once told me to my face that he believed that “Asian women were the modern day trophy wives.” Really? Asian women? All of them? He might as well have thrown a drink in my face because that was the equivalent of how I felt when I heard that. In case you were wondering what happened after that? Friendship over. For the men that read this blog, please. Please. Don’t ever say this to a women. Unless they want to be referred to in this way, it is a degrading statement and it’s 2015, we’ve come a long way to be put back into this position.

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10 Thoughts From This Week

  • Sleepovers with your girlfriends as adults are still just as fun as they were when you were kids!
  • No one can ever make you feel bad about whatever you decide to do with your own dating life. Don’t give into peer pressure. Do what you want to do and date who you want to date when you feel like dating.
  • Jon Gosselin is only seeking full custody for one of his kids. He has 8 total and this is all sorts of messed up.
  • In life, people aren’t going to know how to communicate over email and will send you snarky emails. Don’t react by sending a snarky one back. Be a professional.
  • This week I flooded two bathrooms while taking a shower.
  • This article about a Silicon Valley Startup Castle has the most ridiculous requirements.
  • The dreams that you have about your work life are telling you something. It’s okay if you’re not sure what that message is just yet. I’ve been spending all day trying to figure it out.
  • There will come a time where you will have a dessert that you find to be too sweet for you. That would be the Coldstones Cherry Vanilla ice cream I had last night celebrating Avi’s birthday.
  • Friendship is a two-way street. Just like a relationship, you shouldn’t settle for anything less if you feel like you’re being treated unfairly.
  • Reading this article about modern day dating made me really upset. My generation is really disappointing.
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A Collection Part 42

For the first time, we are publishing an “A Collection” post and starting the next one immediately. Hopefully, this means that we can have another one posted within the next six months. These are Veronica’s favorite posts and I even texted her this morning to let her know that she could expect it this evening. These posts are so interesting to me because there is usually little to no content. Instead, it’s a post of 50+ images that I’ve collected over 6 months that evoke something out of me. There’s no rhyme or reason. I can’t go through each photo and say why I chose each one. I just know that it’s important to me, that it means something and resonates with me in some way or another. I’ve never actually talked to Veronica about this, but while this doesn’t hold much content, I almost feel like she probably knows what I’m thinking or how I’m feeling through a collection of images. Maybe you all do! You tell me. :)

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Wedding Mondays

Every time I see a wedding video that is 14 minutes – even 10 minutes long – I get a little bit nervous. I think to myself, this could either be really really good or bad and if it’s bad, I’ll know so within 45 seconds. Luckily for all of us, the bad never came and I found myself feeling more and more drawn in with every minute. When it ended, I was surprised that it was 14 minutes long because it definitely didn’t feel like it. Wow, Nina and Charlie are one incredible couple. From their impeccable style, their heartfelt vows to each other, and the overall look and feel of the wedding… – we loved everything that we saw. This is one of those wedding videos where you watch it and you say to yourself, “I hope my wedding is something like this.” This venue is actually a dream venue that I would love to have if I chose to have my wedding indoors. I really like that the space is versatile, clean, and spacious and everything can just happen all in one place. No one wants to be driving back and forth from location to location on their wedding day – guests included.

To view the entire feature, click here to visit Green Wedding Shoes!

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When One of Your Girlfriends Gets Engaged

mandi and me

There’s really something special that happens when you learn that one of your favorite girlfriends has been proposed to, is engaged and now doesn’t have a boyfriend, but a “fiance.” This isn’t the first time that I’ve gotten this news from a friend, but it’s different every time and so special that it feels like the first time. I was at my desk having a casual conversation with a coworker of mine when it popped up on my screen. My iMessage with a text from Mandi that said, “Hi Eric and I just got engaged !!!!!” What? So anticlimatic given the surroundings, but with enough emotion to make me tear up right then and there.

When I first moved to the Bay Area, Mandi and Eric were the first friends to welcome me into the city and into their circle. They made sure that I never felt alone and that my two feet were going to be on the ground again like they once were in Seattle. After all, the three of us were beginning to make the Bay Area and SF our new home at the same time. Mandi has been a great example in teaching me how to be a better friend and together her and Eric have set a great example for how to have a healthy and loving partnership together. I am absolutely overjoyed and thrilled for the both of them and can’t wait to celebrate with these two every step of the way. Congratulations Mandi and Eric! The road to the wedding day is going to be the best ever and now we’ll finally have a purpose for these wedding expos we’re going to be attending!

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Saying Goodbye to Derek Shepherd

I actually stopped watching Grey’s Anatomy a very long time ago – like after the second season or something like that. Yet over the years (the show has been running for 10!) I’ve tried to stay in the loop whenever I could. When the first episode aired, I loved it. Finally, a show taking place in Seattle! Actually, it’s a pretty great series and I wish I would’ve continued. When I heard that Derek Shepherd passed away during last week’s episode, I decided that I just had to see the episode. Even though I got lost in the seasons, the relationship between Derek and Meredith was one that resonated closely with me. They had a great romance and in last week’s episode that I watched this evening, I cried puddles. Cross-legged on my living room floor (what? not even my couch, I know) eating my Chicken Noodle Soup from Panera and tears streaming as we said goodbye to Derek (yeah, both Meredith and I!)

This doesn’t make me want to continue the series or anything, but it was classy send-off and I really appreciated ABC for doing it the way that they did.

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In Couples Breaking Up This Week…

Big Sean and Ariana Grande – 8 months of dating

Miley Cyrus and Patrick Schwarzenegger – 5 months of dating

Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield – over 3 years of dating. This one was just confirmed and makes me the saddest.

And in whatever news, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are finally getting a divroce. Breakups all around and it’s only TUESDAY!

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Blog Roundup

– The summer music festival economy explained. [Vox]

– Ellen Pao announces that Reddit will no long allow for negotiation in salaries during the hiring process. [Salon]

– After 3 years of dating, Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield have decided to go on a break. [People]

– Karlie Kloss encourages young girls to code! Yeah! [Fashionista]

– Surprised babies are more curious and eager to learn. [GOOD]

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