I’ve been sitting on this topic for a long time now – like 5 months. Usually, I don’t wait that long to write about something that I want to write about, but I’ll admit that I was hesitant about this conversation mainly because of how I should be writing it, how people may perceive it, and what kind of backlash I might receive (if any) Here’s hoping there’s not.

Quite some time ago I was in the company of two friends – both male – when one of them brought up the fact that he had recently read an article that men were more likely to cheat on their wives if their wife was making more money than them. I can’t recall the kind of face I made when I heard that, but I’m 74% sure that my jaw dropped. I probably needed to read the article myself to fully understand the content and have a better grasp of it, but at that point, that was all I needed to hear to make my conjecture at the time. Guy 1 was silent for most of this conversation, but guy number 2 (the one who had brought up the article) elaborated some more by saying that he understood where guys were coming from when they took this kind of a standpoint. Both guys agreed that they would prefer the traditional way of providing for a family in which the man makes most of the income and the fact that their wife would be making more could be slightly uncomfortable.

Now there’s a lot to be addressed here so I know I need to be careful with my words and showcase every standpoint.

First off, these are the opinions of two guys and just because this is their opinion it doesn’t mean they are bad or wrong or whatever word you want to insert in. It’s a common mentality to have and there are many guys that still believe in this and strongly want this for them and their families. At the same time there are guys who are willing to throw their hands up and say, “Hey, my wife is going to make more than me? Fine, I’ll be the stay-at-home Dad if I need to be!”

On the other hand, I do not condone cheating EVER. If you’re cheating on your wife for this reason, then you have some insecurity issues that you need to deal with. The times are a changin’! There are different types of women in the world. There are some women that prefer to be taken care of by their husbands and their income. Stability was important back then and it still is today. There are also women that prefer to have their own ambitions and want to make their own success. Now I don’t want to take any sides (though we know which side I would lean on) but ladies – I want to advise you that whatever decision you make in becoming the woman you want to be, you should feel supported by your  partner. Whether it is making less money than your husband, but having goals of your own or not having career goals after a certain point in your life or climbing up the career ladder past your husband, you should never let anyone limit the level of your success.

Upon hearing about this article, I was shocked because even though as women, we have come so far, there are still aspects in life that will try to push us back. And another thing? In the words of my friends, ambition is sexy. A person that knows what they want in life and is going after it says a lot about a person. It says they’re willing to work hard for their career just as much as they are willing to work at their relationship.

Oh, did I just take a standpoint…sawry, there is no trophy wife/future real house wife here.