In between completing my taxes today, I’ve been thinking a lot about the words I could share to show my support for women everywhere – for those that I don’t know, but even more importantly for the strong women in my life – family, friends, teachers, and influencers. I already wrote a pretty lengthy and heavy post this week so for this one, I want to do my best to keep it short and sweet.
I want to share a quick story though because this led to a turning point in my life and was a strong reminder of the company I wanted to keep or the company I should cut. In a conversation with a former boyfriend and his friend, the friend shared with us that he had recently read an article that reported men were more likely to cheat on their women significant others if they made more money than them. Friend decided to add in his own thoughts by saying that he not only believes this report to be true, but that if he were in that situation, he would do the same. He would cheat. He acknowledged that it wasn’t the right thing to do, but that it was his way of regaining his own masculinity back and that he outrightly believes that men are the breadwinners in a family – not the women. When I asked said boyfriend about his own thoughts, he kind of shrugged his shoulders clearly not wanting to be put on the spot, but you know what – silence is also a response.
I know what you’re thinking. YES, in this day and age (even if this was several years ago) – there are people who believe some thing as outrageous as this and nothing gets me more riled up than this bullshit right here. Relationship ended for other reasons, but the most important takeaway for me was that in my life, I am never going to let another man or person punish me for my own successes – no one should. And side note, if I decide I don’t want to be the breadwinner, um – that’s my choice. Not yours.
A very close family member told me over the holidays that they believed me to be “too confrontational for my own good.” As a girl who took many years to find her own voice, this was such a compliment to me. I’m pretty sure I shared this over text with like five of my girlfriends after this happened. In 2017, I am so excited to have a voice and to share my thoughts and opinions on Yow Yow! in a way that I never had the opportunity to before. I am also excited that we have so many strong female role models to look up to. Today has been the best example of that.