18 Nov 2018

Who Hurt You

Even though I’ve had a close relationship with social media for the last 10 years, every now and then comes a moment that reminds me of its downsides. Today, I was called out by someone over Instagram DMs because I had watched their stories recently. First, they considered it “creepin” and then continued to not drop the situation by asking me why I had watched their stories. What makes you think you deserve an explanation? Why does there need to be any explanation at all?

And that’s what is wrong with social media in 2018. Every interaction: a like, a comment, a follow just HAS to mean something. It begs further explanation or an investigation if you will and I am not here for it. I’m going to admit that I’ve been guilty of this in the past maybe thinking about what it all meant or discussing with friends. I’ve never put someone on the spot though and it made me feel very uncomfortable being in that seat today.

As someone who looks at like 20 LinkedIn profiles a day, I am un-phased by things like this, but Instagram is a completely different platform. Apparently, there are very hidden meanings beneath the surface of it all. I wish this person well and hopefully that they never do this again to anyone because if I were them, I wouldn’t want to re-live this embarrassing moment. Let’s not demand responses and fish for reactions from others. If someone wants something from you, they’ll let you know, but you’re not going to get much out of Instagram actions.

Posted on November 18, in Life