This Closet post is a bit of a mixed bag! Because we still live for the summer, but yet we’re also craving a cozy fall. Labor Day Weekend is known for being the weekend we say goodbye to summer everywhere else except San Francisco. Here, it stretches about an extra month and I am all for it. This year’s fall 2019 trends might just be my favorite of all. Even though I’m not shopping myself, I’m longing for long-sleeved dresses and cardigans in all sorts of textures. I hope you all will do all the shopping that I can’t!Read more “The Closet: August 2019”
I’m likely the last person in my office without AirPods and I’m still continuing that streak of not caving. These adorable cases by [SMOKO] are about to change my mind though! I’m obsessed with all things cute and this is no exception. Not only are they just the food and drinks that I like, but they are the ones that I love. Those AirPods can be quite pesky and as I hear from my friends always getting lost. Why not keep them safe by purchasing one of these for $12 a pop?
King Henry – Let You Know
Bear with me if “crusade” isn’t the right word to use in this title scenario – it’s a Saturday morning! Naturally, I’m quite partial to Seattle’s International District, but there are so many hidden gems within San Francisco’s. Since Kevin lives over here, I’ve gotten more exposure to it in the last year then my entire six years of living in the Bay Area. Contrary to what you might believe, there are less tourists than you think in this area. The number one selling point is always the food. My favorite spot is Yin-Du for their $6.50 bowls of wonton soup – a staple for any winter day or any day for that matter.
Stumbled into the beautiful [Kim + Ono] boutique. This place is a literal dream and full of all things that I love.
I would have loved to have caught the entire award show last night, but I was a little tied up with work. I did, however, manage to catch the only performances I was looking forward to. MTV blessed the world with two Shawn Mendes’ performances and naturally I’m still deciding which I enjoyed more. On top of that, I was blown away by Normani and there was no doubt in my mind that I wouldn’t like Missy’s. It was a throwback for the ages.
An honorable mention goes to Taylor Swift because “Lover” is all I want to listen to ever.
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Here's my first #ComicCon exclusive reveal, the limited edition DUMPSTER FIRE resin toy. Is everything around you a waking nightmare? Celebrate with some kawaii trash, just like your life! This toy is based on my Dumpster Fire GIF and pin. You’ll be able to choose between a regular version, which is limited to just 50 pieces, and a blue flame variant, which is limited to just 10. Each of the 3.5″x3.5″x2.75″ toys (which were beautifully hand casted and painted by the amazing @propsandpop ) come signed and numbered by me, and will retail for $50 each! You can get yours at booth 1532 #art #artwork #resin #resinart #toy #designertoy #cute #kawaii #100soft #sdcc #sdccexclusive #resintoy #dumpster #dumpsterfire #trash #trashfire
Easily, the cutest thing I’ve seen all weekend long in content. I’m a little overdue on finding this post, but from now on every time I use this phrase I’ll think of these cuties. Okay, but polling all of you – is this considered inappropriate or work-appropriate for a desk in the office?
Top – Everlane / Denim – Frame / Scarf – Aritzia
Can we just marvel for one second at how long my legs look in this photo? I saw this and thought ‘am I the tallest Asian in the world?’ Have to hand it to my photographer and co-worker for capturing this shot when we were in Dallas at the start of the year for a work trip. Without saying too much, I currently work for a company involved with real estate and had the opportunity to check out some homes in the Dallas area. Growing up, I never had a huge fascination with home buying, but naturally it’s a milestone I’d like to hit in my adult years. We viewed two homes while we were here and upon leaving I started to wonder what I was still doing in San Francisco.
We didn’t have nearly enough time in Dallas as we would have hoped, but something tells me that we’ll be back. If not for a house, definitely for the food!
Hopped off the plane and headed straight for a cup of elote.
- Stop Calling Asian Women Adorable [New York Times]
- Dr. Ruth Says ‘Make Time’ For Sex [New York Times]
- A Bowl of Cut Fruits Is How Asian Moms Say: I Love You [Taste] This is my own mother! <3
- Why Everyone Is Watching TV With Closed Captioning On These Days [Kottke]
- How Complaining Turns Co-Workers Into Friends [The Cut]
- How to Tip [Grub Street]
- LA Ice Cream Truck Charges Influencers Double [Ohnotheydidnt]
- This warms my heart every time [Instagram]
Too often on this blog, you see me preaching about what it means to enjoy time alone. Honestly, my alone time is what keeps me healthy, focused, and sane. I tell everyone that my last couple of years in my late 20’s have truly been my happiest, but I know that I couldn’t have gotten here without my adult friendships. It’s not just my girlfriends or the friends that I’ve known all my life, but it’s those friendships that I’ve had to work at. And it hasn’t been easy. For the record, it’s still a work in progress!
One of my love languages is quality time. It’s no surprise that that part of what makes relationships work for me also translates into friendships. In the last year, I’ve made an effort to keep my quality time with friends routine. I recognize that’s not a sexy way of describing this at all, but hear me out. With my guys friends, we have a common interest in chain restaurants so we make plans to catch up over a meal and at a different spot in the city. This satisfies a few things: quality time, hunger, and exploring new parts of town. For my girlfriend who stays active, we go to CorePower every weekend and follow it up with brunch. If you keep things on a regular schedule, there’s accountability here. Plus you’ve given yourself an amount of time that makes sense for you to catch up on things you’ve missed.
Adult friendships are vastly different than the friendships I had when I was in high school, college, or even my early 20’s. There’s so much depth to the conversations we’re having now and it feels like for the most part, we’re all on the same page. The meat of our discussions are around relationships, friendships (there it is again!) careers, and of course, always feeling like we never have it together. No matter what you believe, it’s true, no one has it together. It’s comforting to know that my friends feel the same way as I do despite what careers we’ve ended up in or our relationship status. In a way, it’s more universal than you think.
There are a few things that pose as challenges. It is always distance and stages of life. With Mandi getting her PhD in New York, three hours difference may not seem like a lot. However, it is when you’re trying to catch up by phone and I’m home from work at 7PM. I haven’t been back to Seattle since the holidays, which means that when I see Veronica in October, I’ll be asking her what she did since January. When I learn that my own friends are growing out their families, I couldn’t be happier for them. This is a chapter, however, that I’m not able to relate to yet. And with that, I carry guilt. It feels like there’s more that I could be doing, but I don’t know how. I want to check in and visit, but I don’t want to overwhelm them as new parents.
In 2019, you may have noticed me distancing myself from social media a bit. There does seem to be one thing that it is good for though! A quick post or an Instagram story can instantly make that distance feel smaller. The positive light in this is that it allows people to know what you’re doing and what you’re up to. Yes, it is a double edged sword, but let’s just focus on the pros. It also lets people engage quicker than you would otherwise. On a story, Instagram allows quick reactions with emojis and while it may seem like a small gesture, it goes a long way. On my end, it tells me that my friends see me and that they are open for a conversation and we can chat instantly.
I’ll always feel these struggles of wanting to catch up with every friend on an appropriate timeline or being in two places at once. Technology is not that advanced yet so I have to make do with what I have. What I do know is that these are the most important friendships in my life. Not only have they stood the test of time and ended up being longer lasting than others, but they’re going to make it through the important chapters that are coming up next.