18 Nov 2018
Even though I’ve had a close relationship with social media for the last 10 years, every now and then comes a moment that reminds me of its downsides. Today, I was called out by someone over Instagram DMs because I had watched their stories recently. First, they considered it “creepin” and then continued to not drop the situation by asking me why I had watched their stories. What makes you think you deserve an explanation? Why does there need to be any explanation at all?
And that’s what is wrong with social media in 2018. Every interaction: a like, a comment, a follow just HAS to mean something. It begs further explanation or an investigation if you will and I am not here for it. I’m going to admit that I’ve been guilty of this in the past maybe thinking about what it all meant or discussing with friends. I’ve never put someone on the spot though and it made me feel very uncomfortable being in that seat today.
As someone who looks at like 20 LinkedIn profiles a day, I am un-phased by things like this, but Instagram is a completely different platform. Apparently, there are very hidden meanings beneath the surface of it all. I wish this person well and hopefully that they never do this again to anyone because if I were them, I wouldn’t want to re-live this embarrassing moment. Let’s not demand responses and fish for reactions from others. If someone wants something from you, they’ll let you know, but you’re not going to get much out of Instagram actions.
17 Nov 2018
Having a Souvla so close to me is dangerous! It’s so easy for me to want to pick up a cup of their frozen greek yogurt whenever I’m on my way home from anywhere. How I fight that urge every time is beyond me. I recently discovered on a trip there that instead of having to choose between my two favorites – sour cherry syrup and baklava crumbles & honey syrup, they can do a little bit of both! It’s honestly the perfect combo of tart, sweetness, and crunch. Perfect for just yourself or to share.
10 Nov 2018
It’s hard not to watch this and become frustrated. Why are there still such awful human beings in 2018? Kevin and I sometimes talk about how we were able to be shielded away from most racism because we grew up in a city like Seattle, but we often wonder what our lives would have been like if our parents had chosen another city. Maybe, the wrong city. We’re grateful we don’t know anything different and that we’re happy to have better memories of our upbringing because of this.
If I’m being honest, in 2018 I constantly fear the moment when someone decides to say something racist to me and how I’m going to defend myself. The hope is that I’m able to think quick on my feet, but the reality is that I will probably run away out of fear or embarrassment. My other fear is that someone will direct something at my parents. I don’t want to have to worry about these things, but in 2018 we still do.
10 Nov 2018
Since moving up to San Francisco, I’ve discovered my ultimate comfort food. In general, Sundays have always been reserved for that and I’ve always made it the day that I eat meals that remind me of home and my mom’s cooking. Hainanese Chicken Rice is simple and straightforward, but so satisfying. It’s a combination of white and dark meat with rice and a sweet ginger, garlic, and soybean sauce. Add-ons are always an option. My favorite is a side of steamed broccoli (cucumbers included) and a perfect runny egg. The portions are generous and often times I’ll eat half for my meal and save the second half for dinner. As if that wasn’t enough food already, the meal comes with a side of chicken broth to sip on. There are many versions of this meal in the Bay Area – Chicken Meets Rice, Rooster and Rice, Chick N’ Rice, and each does their own version a little bit differently.
20 Oct 2018
We’re more than halfway through the month so it seems like now is an appropriate time for me to think about Halloween and how we’re going to celebrate. It’s not in my top five favorite holidays to engage in; it might not even be in my top 10 (are there 10?) but it’s a social holiday so you have to participate a little bit right? I’ve rounded up just a few ideas that I’ve either started to do or am considering and it’s so low key that no one will even blame you if you don’t participate at all.
- My OnDemand currently is full of Halloween themed films. I wouldn’t watch them normally at any other time during the year, but given that it’s the season, it’s an opportunity to freshen up with my favorites. I will throw one on and just have it in the background or I’ll full on participate and watch the entire thing without being on my laptop. Rare. This week so far, I’ve watched Hocus Pocus and Halloweentown and who knows? Maybe I’ll watch a few more.
- Since I’m two months into my new job, I’ve been debating whether or not it makes sense to dress up for Halloween in the office. Is this something people do? Will my friends even do it? One solution is this: find a costume that is so low maintenance that if you get to work and no one is dressed up you can remove pieces immediately to make it seem like you dressed up for a normal work day. My idea is Hamburgler, obviously. Steal it if you want!
- As I’ve lived in San Francisco longer, I’ve realized that it’s not always the easiest place to celebrate the holiday given the environment. I’m not in a neighborhood to have trick-or-treaters or even be able to get to them immediately with candy. It also does not make sense to have a pumpkin outside my door. I do like my decorations though. Instead of my usual flowers, I’ve been considering purchasing smaller pumpkins that I can paint and decorate and leave indoors to spruce up my living room.
- Allow yourself to have a cheat month. When else do you have an excuse to eat this much candy?! If every kid is going to do it, shouldn’t you also? I always thought that around Halloween, I’d have a small bucket of candies near my desk that I can have a piece every now and then. It’s also just a great way to win over your coworkers. Lucky for me, my offices have always had these lying around! They’re a hit.
- Get yourself out of the city and head to a pumpkin patch. I missed this field trip when I was in Kindergarten because I was sick and regretted it ever since. It felt like a prime part of my childhood was lost because of this! I didn’t get to go to another until I was in my early 20’s after college and it was a completely different experience. Even if you have no intention of buying a pumpkin, it’s the epitome of fall. It’s the fall version of a spring field of flowers.