Sweater – Margaret O’Leary / Dress – Aritzia / Bag – Madewell / Shoes – Vince Camuto
If you’ve been following Yow Yow! since the very beginning, then you know that getting in front of the camera wasn’t always easy for me. To this day, I still don’t know what do with my hands or my arms. And when it comes to smiling? I’m the biggest critic for myself. If it has to do with clothes and fashion, I’m enjoying the photographs more to remember and look back on some of my favorite outfits. It has been nearly half a year since these photos were taken, but I’m so excited to share them with all of you.
I know that tech can leave a bad taste in some peoples’ mouths especially in San Francisco, but one of my favorite things about it is its ability to bring a community together. I have connected with so many people on Instagram in the most unique and interesting ways and that’s how I met [Kiyah]. She happened to be in SF the week that she reached out to me and we agreed to meet for a quick shoot as the sun was going down in the Mission District. I’d only ever shot with people I knew or from my own iPhone with my friends that I had to convince to shoot for me. I was curious how I might be in front of the camera with someone that I’d just met and surprised to find how effortless it was. It felt like we were old friends and this shoot ended up being the highlight of my week.
This is a topic that I want to continue in a later post, but I want to start it here. For years, there has been talk about how social media inaccurately portrays a person’s life and how this makes other people feel. The answer? Not great. It makes people feel like their life doesn’t amount to those that are living what looks like their BEST life on their feeds. It makes people feel like they are missing out. Many of us choose to not post in our most vulnerable states or when we are unhappy. As you may have read in a previous post, I don’t post very much at all when I’m not as happy in my own life. This photoshoot with Kiyah will always stick with me because on this day that I met her, I had just been in tears at work that same morning. I woke up and got ready so that I could be in good shape by the time we shot only to have my makeup run almost completely off by the end of the day. When I look at these photos, I can see that I’m not my usual bubbly self even through some of those smiles, but I often times wonder if other people will/can notice. Internally, I knew that I was off my game and while this is one example in my life, this isn’t the only example. Thanks to Kiyah’s amazing work and talent, she really helped us pull this off. I enjoyed my time with Kiyah so much that we agreed to meet again the next time she’s here in SF. To view more of her work, click [here] to visit her website.
My friends and I say all the time how when we were growing up, we were so glad that platforms like Twitter and Instagram didn’t exist. Social media is my every day. Because Yow Yow! exists, there’s no getting around it. There’s even an element of it in my job! If you follow me on Instagram, then you know that I’m a frequent poster for both feed and stories. In my morning commute, I use this time to scroll through my Twitter feed. For the last month, my mood has been up and down. If we’re really being honest, I’ve mostly just spent more time offline on all my platforms than I’m used to. I wasn’t tweeting or retweeting. I was posting less on Instagram and in the last week barely using Stories.
For years, there have been many reports about how social media affects one’s happiness. First it started with this idea of FOMO and depression. Seeing posts from other people in your network or friendship circles causes you to doubt your own life. It’s still a thing today, but more widely talked about. What I’ve been noticing for myself in the last week is that when my mood is down, I just avoid social media completely. I don’t have the energy to blog or post or record. I wondered why that was because a part of me almost thought that I would do the opposite. Many people use social media to make their lives seem more enhanced and desirable and instead I found it easier to run in the other direction. I’m not sure if anyone else does the same, but it felt the most comfortable for me at the time. I only noticed this in myself when my mood had a spike and then the postings came again.
Social media is always going to be one of those things that continues to fascinate me. Sometimes, it even scares me! If this is social media in 2018, what are we going to be like in 2019 and beyond?
Next month, 8,000 Starbucks locations will close the afternoon of May 29th for a company wide racial bias training. This decision was made after an embarrassing incident last week in Philadelphia where two black men were allegedly arrested for “trespassing.” The video of this went viral and CEO Kevin Johnson addressed this incident quickly with an apology and an announcement of the training that came this past Tuesday. The upcoming training will involve nearly 175,000 employees with hopes that incidents like this one will never happen again.