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19 Jan 2019

A Day At The Museum

When I left my job earlier this year, I was determined to give myself a much needed break. The fact that it was summertime made this decision a lot easier for me! It was important for me to choose a selection of activities during the workweek that were more popular on the weekends. One of those things was to visit a museum. San Francisco is home to many, but since I’ve already been to the MoMa twice, I decided on the [Asian Art Museum]. They recently opened up a new restaurant inside so I figured it was a win/win.

With my father being an artist, this side of the world wasn’t foreign to me. I spent some time at the Seattle Art Museum and dabbled in music, but I didn’t have the same talents he did. I haven’t even done the trendy wine and paint night for fear of not meeting expectations.

When touring a museum with someone else, you worry that you’re not at the same pace. Having my solo trip allowed me to take my time and wander as I pleased. I even found myself taking a seat at some points to put on the headphones for a deeper dive into the exhibits. I know what you’re thinking. Isn’t that just inviting a bunch of germs onto your body? Sure, it definitely is, but isn’t that what you have to do for the full experience? The museum was significantly less crowded than usual, but not empty which was preferred. I was amazed by how many nooks and crannies there were and how many parts of the museum you can miss if you’re not paying attention to where you’re going.

As nice as it is to enter the museum on a weekday, nothing beats free. Every first Sunday at the start of the month is free and worth taking advantage of. Otherwise it’s $15 for general admission and $25 for the special exhibits and general admission together.

I didn’t manage to get any shots of my food, but boy was it tough to decide. It’s a decision that becomes even harder when you’re actually starving. The menu was full of some of my favorites including: their take on a “Banh Mi,” Garlic Prawn Noodles, and a Rice Bowl. Naturally, I chose the rice bowl because you can’t mess up a staple. I selected it with grilled pork just like mom would make it! The soft boiled egg was perfection.

My time at the museum was so lovely and educational! It can seem lonely at a glance to do these things on your own, but in a way, it’s also empowering.

12 Jan 2019

SF Eats: Loving Cup

When [Loving Cup] moved into the neighborhood, I thought I was going to be in trouble! Having this sweet treat within walking distance from me seemed dangerous, but there was a larger part of me that was more excited! As beautiful as intricate and complex desserts are, I’m a simple girl. I love an ordinary cookie, a slice of plain cake, and even an everyday frozen yogurt. What a dream it would be to have this every day though!

A trip to Loving Cup puts you in control. You’re in charge when it comes to the flavors you make and the toppings you add. There’s really no wrong way to go with it. In my first few visits to Loving Cup, I was a n00b. I stuck to either chocolate or vanilla yogurt and mixed in just one topping. Little did I know, I had way more room to expand on creativity. Okay so I didn’t stray too far from my first time. Above is a vanilla based yogurt mixed with blueberries to get this rich purplely-blue shade and it was delicious!

There are many options and even though I asked for a “small,” this was more than enough so you know the portions are generous.

12 Jan 2019

Blog Roundup

  • 6 Powerful People On How They Manage Their Imposter Syndrome [Thrive Global]
  • How To Get Your Music Posted On Websites [The Fader]
  • The 19 Trends That Will Define Men’s Lives in 2019 [InsideHook]
  • Is Listening to A Book The Same Thing As Reading It? [The New York Times]
  • I Had My First Date at 28 [The Cut]
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  • The Ubiquity of Smartphones, As Captured By Photographers [The Atlantic]
  • Joan Graves Is The Woman Who Determines The Rating Classifications For Films… Until Now; She’s Retiring. [The New York Times]
  • 9 Women Share Why They Wear Fake Engagement Rings [Brides]
  • Why It Makes Sense That Airlines Overbook [Cheddar / YouTube]
  • Private Bus Company Chariot Going Out of Business [Curbed]
  • Co-Working Space The Wing Is No Longer Just For Women [The Cut]
  • AT&T Park Is Now Called Oracle Park [Curbed]
  • How To Get Back A Few Hours Every Week [Fast Company]
09 Jan 2019

SF Eats: Iza Ramen

When it comes to ramen, I’m not an easy one to please. I’ve tried a number of places in San Francisco and up and down the Peninsula and very few have seen more than one visit from me. What ends up happening is that each spot has pros and cons. Not one is ever a slam dunk. At my last workplace, there was a Japanese spot near me, but they didn’t specialize in ramens. They had a number of items and while I ordered their ramen once a week, none of my friends ever did!

On a recent trip out, I decided to check out Iza Ramen. Each joint has its own flair, but my favorite part was the fattiest of pork slices I ever consumed. Also you can order a side of buttered corn to go with it. How come these just don’t come with your order these days and are considered an add on?

06 Jan 2019

SF Eats: Dragon Beaux

Growing up, it was a tradition of my family’s to eat out for dim sum nearly every other week. Many of you know that even though I’ve lived in the Bay Area and SF for five years total now that I still get homesick from time to time. Part of what makes that easier for me is a routine I set out for myself. Sundays are for comfort foods! I’ll usually spend a meal that reminds me of what I used to eat in Seattle or my mom’s cooking. Since Kevin has moved here, eating gets a lot easier because we pretty much like all the same stuff. I had been seeing Dragon Beaux on my Instagram feed and made a mental note to check it out the next time I could. Needless to say, we over ordered.

I’ve tried a couple of dim sum spots across the Bay Area, but this might be one of my favorites. It’s certainly the fanciest! For the price and the amount of food, it all made sense to me. Since it was our first time, we wanted to try more than usual, but our second time we’ll probably just stick with the favorites. Dragon Beaux is located in the Richmond district and I’d advise you to get there maybe 20-25 minutes before they open on weekends to get a spot.

These colorful soup dumplings came in flavors like turmeric, beet, and spinach. While they were completely Instagrammable, I definitely prefer the originals.

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05 Jan 2019

Song of the Day for While They Wait

I heard this song for the first time yesterday on my Spotify Release Radar and posted it here the same day. The original is more upbeat, but I liked this slowed down version of it and it included Miguel. I remembered seeing this and thinking that the title was different. This version was titled / Nilda’s Story. Not knowing who she was or what that meant, I posted it anyways.

When I woke this morning, I finally learned the backstory. This song accompanied a video. And Nilda is the name of the woman who’s story is featured in this short doc style video above. Her story follows her as she details how she immigrated from Honduras to the United States with her son Keydan. While it hasn’t been an easy journey for her, there’s some hope at the end of it. The context of this song now means so much more than just a slowed turn version of what I thought it was before.

Every day that I have to read another story about parents and their children being separated while trying to immigrate is heartbreaking. There are strong assumptions being made about the people that try and this video for the [While They Wait] campaign shows another side. It’s the side should everyone should see and believe in. This campaign is meant to “help raise awareness and support for immigrants, particularly those seeking asylum and/or facing family separation.”

Directed by Jake Schreier

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05 Jan 2019

Wanted: Work / Life Balance

As a recruiter, I hear this phrase at least two times a day. Questions from my candidates at the end of the call always end with “What is the work life balance at your company?” But it’s the answer that I continue to struggle with even after all these years. In order for me to answer this, I have to know what your definition of work life balance is. You and I could have two very different interpretations of this.

I will admit that since I started working in startups back in 2013, I basically said goodbye to ever having a 9-to-5. It wasn’t a huge issue for me. My jobs were demanding, but rewarding and didn’t always feel like work. The other aspect of my job is that even when you’re “done,” you could be doing more. You can always be reaching out to candidates or finding them so technically the job doesn’t have to stop if you don’t want it to. That was my challenge – finding my boundaries.

As I head into 2019, I think of a new year as a fresh start. It’s a chance for me to set my intentions and create new patterns for how I want to live my life this year. My own work life balance is near the top of the list. When I left the office for my holiday break, I made a promise to myself. The out of office message was up. No one would be expecting to hear back from me until I said so – January 3rd. I was taking two weeks off. Halfway into break, a colleague reached out with what seemed like a timely urgent message. It would have been easy for me to oblige, but I had to stand my ground. I knew it wasn’t urgent and I set the expectation on when I would get back to them. Nonetheless, I was slightly peeved.

This instance reminded me of a moment and learning lesson I had earlier this year. A colleague of mine was on vacation and this time, I was the one that reached out to her with what I considered an urgent message via Instagram. It wasn’t something for her to do, but it was an FYI that I thought she would want to know.

Her response: Hi! That’s great! But please don’t message me about work stuff while I’m on vacation. 🙂

Polite, direct, and completely got the message across to me that what I did was inappropriate. I knew immediately that what I had done was wrong, but it took me being on the other side of it a couple weeks ago for it to come full circle. As individuals, we all have our own ideas of work life balance and boundaries. Something to remember though is that others have different philosophies about theirs and we need to practice respecting that.

The best way to find out how is by asking, but here are a few general rules:

  • When you go on vacation, let your team know the duration for when you’ll be out and who they can reach out to in place of you. It’s best if this is communicated in a team-wide email as opposed to one-off conversations.
  • Make sure to set your email out of office response before you leave.
  • Ask your teammates what their preferred method of communication is and which they respond to the fastest. Is it by text, phone call, email, Slack, etc?
  • What you consider urgent might not be considered urgent to someone else. Before you capitalize all the letters of that word in the subject line, take another minute to reconsider.
  • If you send a message outside of normal working hours or 8-6PM (generally) you shouldn’t expect a message back until those working hours roll back in again. The same goes for weekends. ie) your message on a Saturday might not get a response until Monday. Tough.
  • If you are slightly bothered by someone inserting work into a time for you that doesn’t belong, politely remind them or in my case, set the expectation.

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