For me, birthdays can act as complete shifts in your life. It was decided that this year, I wouldn’t celebrate the way I normally would and opt for smaller gatherings. The morning after last weekend’s wedding, my friends and I seemed to all decide that we were going to change our perspectives on how we had been “doing life.” In my day-to-day, my weekdays are now packed with activities every night while my weekends are seemingly quite open.
I know what you’re thinking. Isn’t it worse to go out and have a night of drinking during the work week? Yes, it’s completely irresponsible, but I don’t make the rules here! I will say, that it does feel great to wake up in the morning on the weekends without a hangover and with a complete and clear mind to tackle the day. It also means I can make it to my 11AM workout class without any regrets.
This moment right now is not in balance, but I have some high hopes that we’ll be able to get there. Eventually.
Think we can keep Wedding Mondays going regularly again? I’m headed to my first one of the year at the end of the month and I’ve got weddings on the brain. It looks like it might be a light year for me, which just means that I’ve got more love to share at the two that I’m attending. Jen and Jeremy’s wedding video is a breath of fresh air. I queued up more than a handful yesterday and this was the first one right out of the gate. It’s certainly not like any other wedding video we’ve seen and it was elegant and simple in its own way.
It’s hard to not love a wedding video that doesn’t start out with this kind of energy! Benedetta and Jeff exude this very free-spirited love that is infectious. Also, how can you not love a video that features their son?! I’ve been holding onto this wedding video for some time now, but knew that it would be a favorite when I saw it. I’m very excited to be able to share this with you all this evening and hope that it kicks off your week right.
For the rest of this beautiful feature, click [here] to visit Style Me Pretty! This dress and her hair are my favorite details, but watching the video, you’ll notice she also had a stunning second dress!
These are the types of short stories that I could watch forever. By now, and in Yow Yow’s existence, we’ve likely watched nearly 50 of these. I never get tired of them because while they are similar stories, each one varies so vastly from each other. It took me a minute to realize that Sushi Noz is actually located in New York City.
Even though I’ve only been to New York once, I still see it as one of the best food cities in the country. It’s home to many extraordinary chefs and these scattered gems. I don’t know how anyone could ever get tired or bored eating in New York. The way that this was made was also beautifully done. And even though we’ve already brushed our teeth for the night, watching this made me crave sushi.
We’re not even through the month yet and I continue to be frustrated with the type of news I see from companies and organizations that should know better. It’s the same old story. And I know I’m not the only one that feels this way. But when these pieces come out, it causes me to wonder a couple of things. Decisions aren’t made on the whim. Like many orgs, these decisions go up a chain of people for approval. This happens at startups and non-startups. The companies in question are massive organizations. Secondly, my next question is wondering who is in the room. How many people make these decisions and who do they represent? Because it’s clearly not their customers.
I could dive deeper into each piece, but it’s not worth the time – right now. For now, I want to put this out there and make it known and it’s likely we’ll have to circle back on this again. Here are the pieces in question:
It’s not my first rodeo. I’ve watched plenty of reality dating TV shows in my lifetime and personally save two hours of my Monday night to remotely watch The Bachelor with two of my best friends in Seattle. When I first heard about this show (without watching the trailer) I remembered thinking “What’s so different about this one?” Right? Because when you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. However, it was a text from Mandi tonight at dinner that prompted me to give it a chance. Mandi knows all too well about my dating life and TV life for that matter.
I have to commend Netflix for the way they produce their shows. I promise I’m going to get into the meat of the content and why this show is different, but aesthetically, this show does a phenomenal job of painting what dating looks like for my friends and I. I’ve been watching the Bachelor for years, but even now I’ve got the formula down. I know exactly what’s going to happen in every season and the type of characters they are going to cast. There’s always a sea of blondes. You’ve always got a crazy villain. You have someone with a unrealistic job title. And of course, the dates. So extravagant that it’s not real life at all. What is real life though is drinks, maybe dinner, and maybe something for afterwards if the night has gone well. This is the formula that is true – that Netflix highlights and that I can get behind.
I’ve only watched three episodes so far for a total of 90 minutes, but I can’t get enough. I caught myself nervously laughing when a girl made a cringe-worthy comment. It could’ve been a disaster, but it wasn’t! She recovered. My eyes widened when I saw one of the girls go in for a make out sesh at the end of the night. In my head I thought, “Was that too much?” “Is that what people do on first dates these days?” Sure, this is New York, but everyone has a different dating style and it’s incredible to observe.
Let’s talk about the diversity in this series. It’s not a sea of blondes actually. In the 2nd episode, we’ve got a career woman who is Indian and a divorcee and in the 3rd episode a gay Asian man. This first couple episodes alone are already years ahead of The Bachelor franchise. Something I always think about in dating culture is how it feels like you are repeating the same type of conversations. Where are you from? What do you do for a living? How do you spend your weekends? And if you’re a serial dater or racking up a couple dates a week, it can feel tedious. Instead, these conversations for first blind dates are digging a bit deeper. They are getting into values, upbringings, and real dating challenges to find out if the person in front of them is a future match. For some, this feels like hard hitting topics to discuss on the first date, but maybe it’s just a sign that these folks are looking for something more serious. It’s an interesting watch, but I like to think it’s going to serve as a playbook for current daters who find trouble with this process today.
My favorite part of the show? We haven’t even talked about the set up yet and we’re well into this post. The show revolves around one individual. They go on five blind dates and throughout the 30 minutes, we see a snapshot of each of them. It feels fast, but the conversations are there and Netflix is capturing the most important parts, that you feel like you know everyone well by the end of it. For each episode, the main character wears the same outfit and is at the same restaurant which provides consistency. It’s as if it is one long date, but you know that it’s five separate occasions. By the end of the five dates, the main may choose to go on a second date and you’ll see who they pick! There isn’t any commentary or any context. It’s also not very obvious who they are going to pick. But this is my favorite part! It’s always satisfying when I pick the right person! Classic me finding someway to turn this into a game.
There’s no word yet on whether or not this series has been given the green light for a second season, but we like what we see.
Tonight I did something for the first time that I’ve never done with these posts. Since I started working on this post over the holidays while I was at home there were a few Christmas themed photos in this batch. As I scrolled through the preview, I didn’t feel that same spark or attachment to them as I once had. So while on my way to finish this post, I replaced those photos. Since we’ve been through 53 rounds of this and I’ve never once replaced any photos before posting, in some way, I felt like I was being inauthentic. Could my readers tell that I had swapped them out? Of course not. But I would know and that kind of ate me up for about 15 minutes.
We haven’t written our resolutions post yet, but this made me think of two previous resolutions I’ve had. A few years back, I had “say yes to everything.” The intent was good, sure. But saying “yes to everything” can sometimes do more harm than good. Sometimes you say yes to things when you don’t want to. Maybe saying yes to things causes you to spend money when you don’t want to. Have experiences that you don’t think you’ll appreciate. The next year I refined that resolution: do the things you want to do. And that has stuck around longer than saying “yes.” So if that’s what I truly believe, why not act upon that when it comes to this blog and my posts?
You guys, I consumed a ton of videos over the weekend, but this was my favorite. Before 2016, my idea of speed dating was exactly like that one scene in “Hitch” except that film made it so much cooler. Spoiler alert – I have tried speed dating before and it was awful! Either speed dating isn’t for me or I’m a bad dater. It’s unclear. Whatever the case, there’s no way to remove the awkwardness from it.
A few years ago, there was a startup that my friends and I all talked about – Grouper. You (the single) bring along two girlfriends to meet with three other singles of the opposite gender. It’s sort of like speed dating, but with less numbers and in a more controlled environment. This video reminds me of this and something like The Bachelor franchise.
What I don’t like about this video is how focused it is on technology and using cell phones. Think about how awkward it is for “Jon” to just be sitting in the middle in front of everyone, but not actually conversing with them while he has the chance. What I like about this video though is that he’s asking the hard hitting questions. Sure, his interests vary from mine, but it’s what is important to him and it’s actually weeding these women out. He can visually see who is leaving the circle because of his questions rather than say, being ghosted? Imagine how efficient dating could be if everyone got their pool of people like this.