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04 Jan 2017

Looking Forward, 2017

This is the post that we both love and hate. There’s something so challenging about making yourself accountable to the things you write on a blog and share with your readers. Also, I don’t exactly enjoy making myself feel vulnerable – a normal feeling that I’m sure most would agree with. I’ve been thinking a lot about my resolutions for 2017 even before the New Year hit. As I’m shopping at UVillage, I’m jotting thoughts down in my notes on my phone. When I wake up, I’ll roll over to grab my phone so that I don’t forget about the resolution that maybe resonated from the dream I just had. What a process, man. I liked the format of how I wrote this post last year including the previous year’s resolutions and the ones I have for this year so we’re going to do that again. What I’ve noticed in these last year’s goals, however, is that they aren’t really measurable. And if there’s anything that I learned from my work life this past year is that you need to have measurable goals and tie numbers to things so that you can track your process; otherwise, they’re kind of useless. I’m seeing this in blog posts that other people have written this year advising people on how to make resolutions. We’ll try to strive for that in our 2017 goals.

2016:

  • Finish the things we start – What did I even start last year? We’re already off to a bad start. The only thing I can remember finishing is Modern Romance. Hooray! The reason why I remember that is because I was talking about that for this bullet in this same post last year. I also finished Gilmore Girls Revival on Netflix. Television series aren’t easy. On that note, here are two things I started that I didn’t finish – Stranger Things and Westworld.
  • Have more of an adult apartment – I didn’t move this year and we’re not mad about it. Don’t get me wrong, I was ready to move the moment I saw options like the Stunning New Homes in the Okanagan and similar locations; but we decided that this is a decision that needs a lot of thought and contemplation, and we should give it time and explore more options as well. Also, I am obsessed with my current home – probably more than the average person. We didn’t make any extra purchases for the place this year, but we did tidy it up more than usual and added candles to our everyday decor. Happy to announce that I now have a candle queue and it never gets down to zero. We haven’t given up on our ideal dream home yet, but we’re not in any rush. When we decide it’s time, we’ll take a look at the Eddie Yan website for inspiration…hopefully we’ll find what we’re looking for!
  • Get to 1,000 Instagram followers – Nope.
  • Go Abroad – We went to Mexico! While we didn’t take any other international trips in 2016, we did explore a new place every month and that felt good. We’re going to continue that in 2017 too.
  • Do all the things you said you were gonna do – We did our hip hop class! We may have put it off for months, but we went and I’m including this in a goal for 2017 too as a stretch goal. Just keep reading!
  • Save Save Save – I’ve got some work to do in this area. I don’t know how people do it. It’s not like I think I actually have a spending problem, but what I’ve realized is that in order to save you need to have a detailed outline and that’s something that I don’t have. Also there are times that you need to spend a little to save in the long run. I’m still trying to grasp this. This is returning for our 2017 goals and this time we have more actionable steps that we’ll discuss in a bit.
  • Work Smarter – I wouldn’t say that we had better work / Yow Yow! balance in 2016, but I stayed at work later less than I have in previous years. I finally started adopting the things that I was preaching, which is that while it’s important to be urgent, it makes no difference if you respond to an email at 8:30 AM the next morning vs. 11:00 PM the night before. If you remind yourself that enough, you’ll be okay.

2017:

  • Get to 1,000 Instagram followers – If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Honestly, considering I didn’t achieve it again this year, I think I’m going to look into marketing agencies or social media growth tools that I can use to try and tip me over the 1000 mark. I’ll probably soon take some time out to look into which services or tools could be the best for my needs and audience size, it should be relatively easy to find the various service options, as Quantum Marketer discusses them here. I’m sure I’ll also be able to find some others on my journey for more followers and education on social media growth.
  • Trim the Fat – For as long as I’ve known, I’ve always had that hoarder mentality in the back of my head. Maybe this was passed down to me or maybe I just don’t like change and letting things go, but we need to be able to let things go. In Q1 of 2017, we’re going to finally drop off the clothes that we don’t wear anymore to Goodwill. As much as I sort of like the record player that I got as a gift from an ex years ago, it’s not my dream record player so we should part ways with that too. There might be quite a few things that I’m going to have to throw out along the way, we may have to look at some skip bins sydney companies to help us unload a lot of items that we find in the hoarding cupboards of our house!
  • Procrastinate Less – It’s unrealistic to just say “don’t procrastinate” because we could never do that so instead we revised it. I learned a pretty important lesson in 2016 when it came to making adult decisions. The longer I put things off, the worse things were. When I didn’t get my car serviced exactly when I should’ve, it was more expensive than I had anticipated. If I had decided upon something later than I should have, I was often making quick decisions that weren’t researched carefully or well thought out – sometimes out of desperation, which was costly. My hope is that if I am more thoughtful about these types of things in 2017 that it will make life easier for me.
  • Back to Dance – We’re rusty; there’s no denying it. Attending Monday Night Workshop this past summer was scary, but it was just the push that we needed. My work life can sometimes be a little chaotic and it doesn’t always allow me to express myself in the outlet that I’m looking for. When I first thought about this goal, I was too ambitious. In 2017, I thought I was determined to choreograph my own piece! We’re now retracting that and I think if we can perform a piece and post it on Instagram, we’d be pretty happy with that. I really hope I don’t end up regretting having this as a resolution.
  • Consider Health and Wellness – When it comes to being fit and doing what’s right for my body, I’m not one for consistency. Over the summer, I felt a spurt of energy that I hadn’t seen in myself before and I started waking up earlier and having a routine of basic exercises and stretches that I would do ahead of starting the day. The more I did this, the more normal it felt and soon it was just habit. That was… until we got to the fall and I started traveling. Doing this routine in a hotel room didn’t exactly feel quite the same. I read so many different blogs everyday – all offering advice and instructions on what to do and how you should do them. My goal is that I’ll be able to collect these over time and I’ll start off by having the same routine everyday, but as I start adding more things, I’ll have a set routine for everyday of the week.
  • Do Something for Yourself Everyday – This is not an easily measurable resolution, but it’s an important one. Sometimes the days are so busy they just kind of pass me by. When something bad happens to me, I let it destroy my entire day like a hurricane. It can be hard for me to see the little things – the good things! I want to be mindful as we head into 2017 those moments that make my day memorable whether that is a text convo in the morning with one of my best friends back home while I get ready, a treat that I can spoil myself with in the afternoon or ending the work day a little bit earlier than normal or at least having a cider or a glass of wine after work. (Only one and occasionally!)
  • Taking Care of Current Relationships – When you’re living in a state different from most of your friends and family, staying in the know can be challenging. What’s even harder is when you make trips back home and you can’t make time for everyone. I’ve had to deal with this for the last 3 years and sometimes I like to think it gets easier, but I could always be doing more. I mentioned this in my last resolution, but one thing that that I try to do is text with different friends in the morning since that’s when I have the most time. I’m also not opposed to a phone call or Facetime sesh either.
  • Actually Save – I’m not great with the savings. I have plenty of friends who are, but I also know people that are in the same boat as me. I thought I was doing something right by saving here and there and for the past few years I’ve gotten by simply by keeping track of things in my head. But it’s not really working the same way that we’d like so it’s time to seek help and I’ve considered Mint, but I’m also considering an app called Digit. It’s also super important to keep track of my finances so once a week, I’ll log into all of my accounts that handle my $$$ just to make sure things are in order. Other people have called this taking a “Money Minute.” When you think about it, it’s not too much of an ask and really – you’re only helping yourself by doing this.

There’s a lot of great posts out right now about how to form your own resolutions and how to keep them. Here is one from GOOD that I wanted to share and stood out to me!

24 Dec 2016

Count Em’ 1, 2… 60? 2016

Every year, this list just keeps getting easier and easier for us to make. S/O to Spotify for curating a playlist for us that captures the top songs we listened to in 2016. I was going to say that now, instead of having to go through all my seasonal playlists, I can just go through one, but if you know me, then you know I’m going to do my due diligence and scan through everything. There’s a couple of differences between this year and last year’s list though. First, it’s not in the order of which songs I was introduced to first the way we’ve always done it. If I’m correct, Spotify arranged it by play count which makes sense, but I’m also not 100% sure that is true either. Secondly, I created a playlist last year that featured all of the songs on this list and that was fun for us! Spotify’s playlist this year though includes 101 songs… and we’re only going to include 60 on this list. I’ll still share the playlist at the end that Spotify created, but it’s not totally on par with our list because I think Spotify missed a few favorites. In fact, I think Spotify played favorites to those that were more mainstream tracks!

1.Zendaya – Something New
2. Drake, WizKid, Kyla – One Dance
3. HONNE, Izzy Bizu  – Someone That Loves You
4. Ella Mai, Ty Dolla $Ign – She Don’t
5. Ariana Grande – Knew Better / Forever Boy
6. Fifth Harmony, Ty Dolla $Ign – Work From Home
7. SG Lewis, JP Cooper  – Shivers
8. Tove Lo – Cool Girl
9. Jeremih, Ty Dolla $ign – Impatient
10. Terror Jr. – Say So (Vasco Remix)

(omg let’s just get all the mainstream jamz and Ty Dolla $Ign outta the way!)

11. Zayn  – Like I Would
12. Ellie Goulding – Here’s to Us
13. Tweet – Addicted
14. The Weeknd, Daft Punk – I Feel It Coming
15. NAO – Bad Blood
16. Local Natives – Dark Days
17. Kehlani – Distraction
18. Luke Levenson – Smoke
19. Solange – Cranes in the Sky
20. Nick Jonas, Ty Dolla $Ign – Bacon

21. HONNE – Treat You Right
22. Yuna, Jhene Aiko – Used to Love You
23. Banks – Mother Earth
24. Drake – Controlla
25. Sebastian Mikael – Mine
26. UNO Stereo, Majerle – Got U
27. Leon Bridges – Lisa Sawyer
28. Cashmere Cat, Selena Gomez, Tory Lanez – Trust Nobody
29. r.e.l – Plateau
30. Joey Bada$$ – Devestated

31. Anderson Paak, Talib Kweli, Timan Family Choir – The Dreamer
32. SOSUPERSAM – A Little Wrong
33. Bruno Mars – That’s What I Like
34. Chance the Rapper, Kanye West – All We Got
35. Charles Bradley – Things We Do For Love
36. Flume, kai – Never Be Like You
37. PJ, Jevon Doe – Tell Me
38. Alex Newell, autolaser – This Ain’t Over (Autolaser Remix)
39. Clarens – Worship
40. Khalid – Location

41. Maren Morris – 80’s Mercedes
42. Janelle Kroll – Down to You (My Confidante)
43. JP Cooper – September Song
44. THEY., EstA – Bad Habits (Esta Remix)
45. Tom Aspaul – New Moon
46. Snakehips, Malika – Falling
47. SG Lewis – Holding Back
48. Frances – Borrowed Time
49. Kiiara – Gold
50. Yellow Claw, Yade Lauren – Invitation

51. LEON – Treasure
52. Ang Low – Life Goes Down
53. Gary Clark Jr. – Things Are Changin’ (Live)
54. Ambre Perkins – Boomerang
55. Kanye West– Real Friends
56. Maggie Rogers – Alaska
57. Kungs, Cookin’ on 3 Burners – This Girl
58. Mura Masa – What If I Go?
59. Frank Ocean – Self Control
60. JoJo – Mad Love

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30 Dec 2015

Looking Forward, 2016

It doesn’t need to be the start of a new year in order for us to make goals and resolutions for ourselves, but like every year, it just is what it is. For some reason, we are all very attached to that January 1st date and seeing how long we can stick out our resolutions for whether it’s one week, one month, or a few months. If we’re being honest here, I wrote my resolutions from last year and I couldn’t even remember them until I just went back and looked at what I wrote this past week. Some I nailed, others not so much! Let’s go back and recap on 2015 before we talk about next year’s resolutions for 2016 though.

2015:

  • Be more of an adult (with regards to finances) – I didn’t get that additional credit card that I was hoping for. Boy, did this year just fly by! I really wish I had made time for this though because it’s actually a very important thing to do and I kind of just blew it.
  • Make smart purchases – I not only purchased things that I frequently used more this year, but for gifts I asked for things that I knew I needed and would put more use towards like a laptop case, a carry-on luggage, etc.
  • Dress Better – Done and done!
  • Channel Taylor Swift – If I’m Taylor Swift then Mandi is my Karlie Kloss. Mandi has been my best gal pal throughout this entire year. Additionally, it’s been nice to reconnect with my other friends in the Bay Area on the occasion too as we’re all doing very different things and we’ve grown up a lot since college. I’m also enjoying it when my friends back home set me up with girlfriend dates in the city so that I can expand my #squad.
  • Wear High Heels – Also not an issue
  • Treat myself to a vacation – I still haven’t had that week long relaxing vacation to a place abroad that I’ve always dreamed about, but it’s not too late! That’s what 2016 might be for! I did, however, take a ton of trips this year to Portland, San Diego, Seattle x2, Monterey, LA, Houston/Austin, and Boston. It’s the most I’ve ever traveled within a year and I’m pretty content with that. 🙂
  • Stay active – Okay so this wasn’t consistent, BUT I DID do Soul Cycle for the first time this year. On top of that I climbed indoors on and off throughout 2015, but not as much as I should’ve.

2016:

  • Finish the things we start – My friends are always shocked when I tell them that I haven’t finished a book in years, but that’s because I always find myself getting completely distracted. I have 4 books at home that I started within the last year and I’m going to finish them by the end of 2016 – starting with the one I just received from Christmas – Modern Romance.
  • Have more of an adult apartment – I haven’t decided quite yet if I’m going to stay in my current place this year or not, but whatever the case, I want to design a home that I not only love to live in, but that others want to live in too. So even if it costs a little bit more to put some extra touches on it, we’ll go the extra mile. I was telling Mandi the other day that every guy I’ve ever dated has always had candles, but that I had never owned a candle in my life which lead me to start wondering if there was something wrong with me!
  • Get to 1,000 Instagram followers – Okay readers, this is something that y’all can actually help me out with since I already have 1,000+ subscribers to Yow Yow! I’ve really been enjoying using Instagram as a daily outlet when I can’t post to Yow Yow! every day and after spending the majority of the year trying to take better photos than I ever have before, this is something I’d like to achieve.
  • Go Abroad – I’m headed to Mexico this coming January, but I’d like to go further. I have serious FOMO when I hear about all of my friends going on their trips, but I realize that me wallowing about it isn’t going to get me there faster. I have a whole year to plan for something amazing now and I’m hoping that this is the year! We’ve been on such a great traveling streak these days anyways.
  • Do all the things you said you were gonna do – I was terrified about getting back into hip hop again this year and couldn’t even make it into the studio. I also didn’t attempt the aerial silks class that I’ve been wanting to try out. In 2016, we’re going to get these things done. Baby steps. And by bringing a friend of course.
  • Save Save Save – Because who couldn’t use a little bit more savings in their lives? When I was in high school, my friend Lexi was one of the best role models I had in my life. She’s one of the smartest girls I know – so bright, driven, and successful. I remember going over to her childhood home and asking her what that piece of paper was on the ceiling of her bedroom. She told me that it was check written for 10,000 and that she had it up there to remind herself every day of the goal that she was getting to. I witnessed her buy her own car and by her own house before any of my friends and it was no surprise.
  • Work Smarter – Burning out from work is not something anyone actually strives for, your eyes will certainly not thank you for staring at that computer constantly. It can be combated by going onto Felix Gray to find computer glasses, but you’ll still be burning out. I also don’t like being one of the last few people in my office working late sometimes because I worry that it gives the impression that I don’t know how to manage my time during the day. In 2016, we’re going to have a better work life balance… or rather a better a work / life / Yow Yow! balance!