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To Be a “Leftover” Woman in China

“People think that in Chinese society, an unmarried woman is incomplete.”

When you know the story of how your parents met when they were teenagers and how they were married in their early 20’s along with the rest of your aunts and uncles, this naturally already puts some social pressure on you. For years, I wondered if that would be me (I knew through college that it wouldn’t!) Then with every year, that curiosity starts to make you a little bit nervous. Luckily for me, in 2016 – people are meeting their partners later on in life and that’s okay! I’ve never been someone who aspired to be just someone’s wife – and I’m not saying that people who marry young are, but I wanted to spend my 20’s working really hard and focusing on my career. This meant a lot to me. However, that thought of settling down is in the back of my mind and I think others have similar feelings as well. This, I think, is normal.

Until I watched this video, I never knew about the kind of pressures that Chinese women faced when they were later on in their 20’s and unmarried. I can’t believe that there is an actual term for it; shengnu – “leftover woman.” To hear how these women’s parents were speaking out about their daughters being unmarried and what it does to them was heartbreaking. There was so much guilt that went along with it, but the video ends on a positive note and sends a very strong message that all of us can stand behind – that you shouldn’t settle, that it’s okay to be strong, independent, and have a career.

This was my favorite thing that I watched all week and really resonated with me. I hope you’ll all take the 4 minutes to watch it. :)

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Blog Roundup

  • How chefs pack their kids’ lunches [Bon Appetit]
  • Stay up to date with this Election Calendar [The Skimm]
  • Tindr for baby names! [Babyname App]
  • Just several examples of perfectionism [Bored Panda]
  • Why it’s important to remember your friends’ sad anniversaries too. [Adulting]
  • 10 Ways You’re Making Your Life Harder Than It Has to Be [Thought Catalog]
  • The beauty standards flight attendants have to follow [Cosmopolitan]

  • A funny little story about dating [Cup of Jo]
  • How to support sexual assault survivors [Ask Men]
  • In random news, Katy Perry is moving to Seattle [Headline Brief]
  • The worst kind of bosses [GOOD]
  • A sweet husband’s kind gesture to his blind wife [GOOD]
  • What time to go to bed [calculator]
  • How to microwave leftovers [the kitchn] Yeah, I didn’t know this either.
  • The cutest way a mother could break the news to her son about being a big brother [Facebook]
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How Japan is Raising Independent Kids

I was completely amused by watching this video that I stumbled upon the other day. I think it’s probably because as a kid, I totally thought I was independent, but after watching this I’m now second guessing myself. I was independent in that I wasn’t someone that always needed to be around people, but could I always do things by myself like adult things? No. Would I be able to walk to school? No way, it was too far. So I took the bus with 20 other kids every single day and the bus stop was right outside of my house. I can’t believe this girl took a number of trains every day, but it makes sense when Japan’s crime rate is so low that that’s something that you just don’t have to worry about.

The cruelest part of the video though? Seeing those kids cry when their parents force them to learn how to be independent. :(

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Blog Roundup

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  • The top 10 Instagrammed restaurants in America [Cool Material]

  • Polly Pocket sets that every 90’s kid loved [BuzzfeedI owned 75% of all of the sets that were shown in these photos.

  • The 10 biggest trends in 2015 [High Snobiety]
  • The 41 most Instagrammed It Items of 2015 [Refinery29]
  • The 6 Shoes Every Grown Man Should Own [Cool Material]
  • Dropbox was given a Michelin Star [Medium]
  • Things that Pitchfork was disappointed about in 2015 [Pitchfork]

Also, just want to note that there will be many more round-up posts as we get closer to the end of the year! I just need to wrap everything up with work first before my focus shifts to Yow Yow! Don’t worry, we’ll do our usuals that we love to do every year and look forward to.

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A Barbie Campaign We Can Get Behind

These are definitely not like the Barbie commercials I saw as a kid. When I stumbled upon this late yesterday evening, I couldn’t wait to share it with my team the very next morning. Not only is it incredibly adorable, but it’s sending along a very powerful message that women can be anything. What we imagine can be a reality! I thought everything about how this campaign was executed was done perfectly from including non-actors for the scenario to the transitioning and even that line, “there’s no high school for the dog.”

These bright and confident young girls did such a great job. I want to share this commercial with every young girl including my favorite niece Lily who is absolutely in love with her Barbie’s.

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My New Favorite Instagram Account

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After being a week behind on blogging, I was introduced to a new Instagram account yesterday that I am completely enamored with. As most of you know, Instagram is something that I have been spending a little bit more time with in the last few months so when things like this happen, I get a little giddy. This Instagram with the handle “Socalitybarbie” is totally killing it. From the poses, to the captions, to the scenery, this Barbie emulates all of our favorite Instagram stars and pokes a little fun at it while doing so.

The account was created by an anonymous wedding photographed based out of the Pacific Northwest.

As the ingenious photographer told Wired, “Either your Instagram photos look just like her’s or you know at least one person who does.”

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Yep, I can’t even hide that this has been my life lately.

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One More Thought About That Instagram Thing…

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After I wrote that post about what I’ve been doing to step up my “Instagram game” this past weekend, I realized that I left out something very important. It didn’t make sense for me to edit the original post and write the update at the bottom. Instead I wanted to wait a couple of days to think a little bit more about what I was going to say and then write another post. I’m not about to tell you anything that you haven’t heard before.

Another important lesson that I learned from taking “good Instagram photos” is that we project how we want to be seen by others. I didn’t want to believe it at first, but the longer I went on with this the more I found this to be true. When I returned home to Seattle this past June, I caught up with a few friends that I don’t regularly keep in touch with and they all couldn’t stop telling me the same thing.

“You look like you’re doing well and you seem really happy at least from your Instagram!”

Well, little do you know, right? My year of being 25 was just as hard as my 23rd year. Just because your Instagram looks perfect and you’ve set the right constrast and highlights, you yourself, are not perfect. I won’t deny that on those harder days, even those validating “likes” could temporarily make me feel better – make me feel like my experiences were a little more exciting or that I was a little bit closer to home. We may not all admit it, but these feelings resonate within a lot of us, people you know and even those power Instagram users. There was a story earlier this year that ESPN wrote about college athlete Madison Holleran who very much projected a happy life through her Instagram while struggling with a lot more beneath the surface of her photos. Of course, I want my feed to project happiness, but if we’re being honest here – my photos don’t always reflect how I’m feeling inside and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with just admitting that.

*We rarely showecase on our social media if we’re feeling sad or unhappy, but I found this rare one that I took back in 2013
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Blog Roundup

– America’s most popular tastes broken down by state [GOOD]
– How employees feel their leaders could improve in the workplace [Harvard Business Review]
– Amazon got torn apart last weekend [New York Times]
– 2015’s most annoying words [Man Repeller]


– 5 scientifically proven ways to ease a hangover [Cool Material]

– An app to keep you safe when you’re walking home alone [GOOD]

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Interracial Couples Talking About Stereotypes

Warning: some of this language is not safe for work. Mom and Dad, you’re not going to want to watch this.

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Blog Roundup

– I can’t even with these sushi beach towels [Colossal]

– The pain of being in love with someone you can never be with [Elite Daily]

– 15 rules for an unconventional wedding [The Coveteur]

– Things to avoid when eating out [The Guardian]

– The Real World is casting in SF next month, do you have what it takes? [7×7]

– Silicon Valley Dictionary – like Urban Dictionary, but a place where people only in tech can truly relate [Silicon Valley Dictionary]

– The most popular foods across the world calculated by Instagram [Photoworld]

– The best amenity kits in first class by airline [Afar]

– How to recover from an all-nighter

– Calculate how much time you’ve spent watching your favorite television shows [tiii.me]

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Homeless People Reading Mean Tweets About the Homeless

Just some perspective. Angie Bird has filmed a powerful video that is a spin on Jimmy Kimmel’s celebrities reading mean tweets about themselves. However, instead of using celebrities, she had homeless people reading mean tweets about homeless people as a way to raise more awareness. Instead of taking a few seconds to put others down, we should be spending those minutes helping those in need.

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2 Kinds of People

When I first landed on this post, I didn’t read any of it. Instead, I did the wrong thing and went through the illustrations done by @inoffensive and tried to figure out which illustration I identified with the most. I was hoping that as I went on further, I would be able to figure out what this was all about and I didn’t so I had to go all the way back to the beginning. This Tumblr of images basically shows people that we typically do choose one thing over the other and by doing so, this shows us what kind of people we are. To view all of the illustrations, click here.

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Non-Profit Stirs Convo About Abuse w/ Emojis

Swedish non-profit, BRIS, recently released a new app that includes this set of emojis dispalyed above to shed more awareness on abuse and allow kids to express themselves to others using an emoji when they aren’t able to speak up.

“A lot of kids feel really awful for all kinds of different reasons, and [these emoji] are easily understood symbols for some of those different issues,” BRIS spokeswoman Silvia Ernhagen told The FADER. “Many children have difficulties in putting words to their problems, so this is a way to help them to express themselves as well as encouraging them to actually speak about their feelings and ask for help when necessary.”

When we think of how we use emojis we’re used to displaying really cute and funny images, but it’s so interesting to see these painted in another light. Seeing these cause us to look at some of the most common emojis we typically use in a worse way. I’m hoping that these emojis strike a more positive response and are of use to others in need through the non-profit’s work.

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My Biggest Issue with The Bachelorette Premiere This Week

It’s no secret that I have a love / hate relationship with The Bachelorette. I don’t always believe that finding love on a reality television show is possible (except for Catherine and Sean!) but I can’t stop myself from watching anyways because I’m generally rooting for good things to come out of the show. I went to my first viewing party with co-workers this past Monday and it was really fun to explain to some of them how exactly the show works and to see how quickly they changed their minds between Britt and Kaitlyn. We had to remind them that the producers completely lead audiences to believe a certain way because of the way they edit things and how calculated every scene is.

Before the season started, I wasn’t quite sure what to think. I wasn’t happy about the guys having to choose between Britt and Kaitlyn, but I can see why the producers thought this would be entertaining. In my opinion, it didn’t seem fair. The girls already have to go through enough and just when they think they’ve been chosen they still have to compete? I’m glad that this was done and over with after the first episode though.

However, my problems didn’t end here. I was actually livid about a remark I heard from one of the guys on the show and even more upset that the media completely grazed over this instead focusing on the intoxicated contestant that was booted before the rose ceremony and the slut shaming that we saw from Kaitlyn having to apologize for her actions. (we’ll discuss this in another post after we watch the episode where this happens.) The line in question that I am referring to is when one guy was discussing who he’d pick, “Britt is more of your trophy wife. Kaitlyn is more of your wife.”

I’m not oblivious. I know that trophy wives exist and I know that there are women in this world that are happy being labeled a trophy wife, but you are not allowed to just refer to someone as a trophy wife. When you say that someone is a trophy wife, does that make you feel better about yourself as a man? Does that make you feel more masculine? This guy just met Britt for the first time and assumed because she was naturally very pretty that she didn’t have more to offer than being a trophy wife. I was really disappointed to hear this and am even more curious now to hear Britt’s reaction on this having seen the first episode. A guy once told me to my face that he believed that “Asian women were the modern day trophy wives.” Really? Asian women? All of them? He might as well have thrown a drink in my face because that was the equivalent of how I felt when I heard that. In case you were wondering what happened after that? Friendship over. For the men that read this blog, please. Please. Don’t ever say this to a women. Unless they want to be referred to in this way, it is a degrading statement and it’s 2015, we’ve come a long way to be put back into this position.

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